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I was diagnosed with herpes in september of this past year. The boyfriend i was dating at the time gave herpes to me... thought he should no signs of gential herpes, it was thought to believe had a cold sore and spread the virus down to genitals through oral sex. that being said I believed it was just bad luck. about a month ago i chose to break up with, I can't be sure, but i dont think it was herpes related, but i thought i was unjustifiably mad at him because he did not know (like most people) it could be spread like that... either way we broke up and b/c he was against the break up from the beginning i chose not to call him (so i wouldnt lead him on to think we would get back together. Well tonight the ass hole (excuse but i am still pretty pumped about it) Call me and threatens that he is going tell everyone i know that i am dirty slut who has herpes and he broke up with me (which is irrelevant) b/c he doesnt date disease infected skanks. *side note- i have not told friends and family yet b/c i wanted to get through this on my own and tell them when i was ready.... he states that b/c i have made is life a living hell he is going to "return the favor" - - -he called my house at 2:00 in the morning trying to get a hold of my parents--- to tell them why he broke up with me . . . . and left a message ont he answering . he swaers up and down that he will tell whoever will listen..... a side note away from the herpes thing... he was talking to me about stuff that i had never told him.... personal stuff that he would have fished around for.... nothing serious. he doesnt anything besides herpes that could get to me, but none-the-less he knows. I want to know how he know this stuff and how i can get away from without him threatening me with anything .... furthermore my sisters got the message and decided to delete so my parents wouldn't i feel horrible b/c i lied to them, its not like i don't plan on telling them,(they have always been very supportive and im sure will be with this too) i just wanted to do it under my own terms...to put the icing on the cake (so to speak) i found out that he has slept with well over 55 women before me i dont want to assume, but i cant help but think he has it and gave it me...now i am scared i might not only herpes,but a more seriious std.... i dont understand i though i loved, i though it was just a relationship that went ary i have never seen him or expected him to act like this... my questions are: what do i do now.... how do i talk to my family . . . how do i know what other stds i might have and how to get him out of my life without him create another episode like this? please help i cant talk to anyone else and i am torn b/c of this

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Sounds like a predicament your in. My situation is just the oppposite I can't get my ex to even talk to me. He gave it to me and now he's in hiding. Won't answer my calls or return them. I am writing him off at this point. Anyway, my opinion is this. If your family is going to be supportive it would probably be better to tell them before he does. He could possible add a lot of stuff thats not true and your family could have a heads up before hand, before the creep attacks. You simply tell them the truth. Moms are great with this kind of stuff. They never seem to pass judgement, just offer support. If you are the praying type pray about it. Ask God for guidance. As far as other STDs, you should plan to get a blood test for the ones that concern you. I will be getting HIV test in a few weeks when it can be detected. Takes 30 days after exposure to show up. As far as getting this guy to leave you alone well don't entertain any conversations with him. Play deaf, dumb and blind. Ignore him all together. When he see's he can't get any attention from you he'll move on to his next victim. But by all means when you chose to have another boyfrind and decide to be sexually active make sure you tell the person that you have this. We all need to do our part to stop the spread of this virus.

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Thanks so much. I knew in my heart that is how I should handle the situation. I just needed to hear it. I don't understand how people can be so vindictive. I completely agree that before i engage in sexual activity, i need to let the other person know what i have I think so far i have been handling it pretty well, but i wanted to cope with this my own way, ya know. I mean not only did he leave me with this, but he took away my mourning process. i know ill get through this, but everything happens in stages and he took away my options to go through that.
Thanks a lot for your help

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Glad I was helpful. I'll be keeping you in my prayers.
Keep the Faith

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i found out that he has slept with well over 55 women before me i dont want to assume, but i cant help but think he has it and gave it me...
wow, sounds like some self loathing behavior on his part. I wouldnt be a bit suprised if hes had recurring "jock itch" or different symptoms he chalked up to something else.

Did you type test? if so, is it type 1 or type 2?

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I have an appointment with my doctor in january to decifer which type it is... i will let you know when i found out... I feel so foolish for falling for this guy... I know a lot people say this when something like this happens, but i just don't understand how i could fall for him without seeing these signs... anger etc...