Question:
well first and foremost i would like to say hello to all. i honestly can say this health board have gotten me through alot of tough times when i honestly couldn't talk to no one about what was occuring in my life. well i am 22 yrs of age also a college student studying nursing. although i am trying to establish a promising future for myself i am lacking in that area because i am often depressed. i have been faithful to the only man that i have ever been with in my life. and for him to just betrayed me and cheat on me has not only damage me mentally but as well physically. i am a type of person i am always often aware of my body and i always go and get my std checks and hiv testing every six months. but i notices something about me especially in my gential areas starting to change. i started to get an bad discharge and also terrible pains in my abdominal area,and i started having a papercuts on my vulva one or two also a rash which i thought the cut might have caused that. no burning no bumps a little tingling and when i urinate it don't hurt at all. my stomach aches it got so bad at one point i had went to the ER where they treated me for a simple pelvic infection and gave me a shot and antibotics and send me on my merry way and told me to call within 5 days for my papsmear results. well i called them like i have been directed to and i was negative Chlamydia and Gonorrhea AND Chancroid, well it was a relif for me but they still suggest i make a follow up appointment with my gyn. which i did and i had went to see my gyn and she did all std checks including herpes, got the results yesterday and i couldnt believe my ears well to my knowledge i have hsv1 the nurse who read my results said my antibotics was extremely high for hsv1 and hsv2 is extremely low. and at the time i didnt really know what it means but i am trying to educate myself on this illness. when i go to my doctor and reguest for my medical papers i will be able to give a precentage and maybe so one will help me try to understand it. i was to much of a emotional reck to hear anything at all but she did told me that it was basically a virus that affect the oral area. well i did manage to ask her what was the name of the test which they had perform on me and she said it was IGG, so i tested 6 weeks so i am planning on returning to get a later testing to make sure if its only hsv1 that i do have. although i spoken to my now Ex he told me he used protection but i am not trying to trust his judgement. he still havent been to a doctor to get tested or anything! well my question is after all this dilemma. could it be possible after his exposure which is oral he transmitted the virus to me unprotected sex to my gential areas? and also does hsv1 produced the same signs same everything that hsv2 does in your gential areas? i am just still in shock and also remotely feeling disquisted with myself and ashamed. so if anyone have any suggestings please feel free to say anything, i need to know what i need to do for my next step and as well in getting myself back to normal i can say because i am still having terrible abdominal pain and pressue to my pelvis. anyways thanks to all who taken the time to read what i had to say i can honestly say without this board i would have went insane....

Answer:
First of all, there is no reason for you to feel ashamed. You did nothing wrong or shameful. The way that i have learned to look at this situation is that shit happens!! Unfortunately though, bad things always happen to good people. I too am 22 years old and found out two months ago that i have herpes. You didnt say if you have had an outbreak yet.. just the papercuts and pains. I had the papercuts first and then i had an outbreak- which by the way was the worst thing i have ever experienced in my life. That is when the depression really set in and i felt like my life would never be the same. See, the thing is that men do not go and get tested.. I have spoken to two of the people that i have slept with to tell them to go get tested and neither of them have. So even when they are told that they probably have it, they dont care. Typically men do no thave symptoms and so if they are not bothered by it, they wont do anything about it. Your ex boyfriend is an idiot too! It does not matter if you have protected sex. You can get this even if you are wearing a condom. Through oral sex especially. I am not sure about hsv1 and hsv2, but i think you should get your results in writing from your doctor and have them explain exactly wht you have. there is no better information than from you gyno. I just wanted to let you know that you will find a wonderful oving relationship again and it is no tthe end of the world even though it feels that way! There are milliions of us out there that are doing exactly what you are doing right now and trying to deal with this. You will be fine- i promise!