Question:
Hi all,

I've just taken in my niece who was just diagnosed with Gential Herpes. She is 16 and will not even talk about it. She only wants it to go away and that is all she will say. She has been in a lot of trouble and it was my home or foster home. I love her to death and want so much to help but she will not let me. So please tell me what to do to help. She has been into drugs and of course sex since she was 15 years old. Her parents weren't good parents. They never knew where she was or what she was doing. I want to help get her back on her feet and she is fighting all the way. She will not go online and seek people who suffer with the same condition. Any Suggestions???

Answer:
Well I will certainly keep you in my prayers. Is there any kind of support group for you as a "foster" parent in your community. Maybe they could be of service to you. That is a tough age to deal with and her drug use doesn't make things any easier. Look for help in your community for yourself. It will at least help you, even if it doesn't help her much. Take care, let us know what happens.

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Can't help those who do not or will not help themselves I'm afraid. :cry: And if they have other issues that have built up overtime, this will usually serve no other purpose then to aggravate the situation. I'd like to say some more but I'm sure others will chime in here.

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First let me thank you for replying. I've read the boards and have found that she really isn't acting any different then anyone else who just found out. Once I can talk her into coming to this board I will show her what love and compassion is here waiting for her.

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16 is sooo hard!! i had a horrible time when i was that age and i cant imagine trying to accept something like this at such a young age! She is a lucky girl to have someone as supportive as you. My dad is a doctor, and has not talked to me or tried to make me feel better about the situation in any way!! I hope that she realizes that she does have this disease and it does not just go away. I also fear that she may still continue to have sex with others and not tell them. (which can be tempting but is not right) I think like any tragedy- you go into denial. I was in denial about it untiil i had so many sores tha i could not walk. ( and i still had to get confirmation from my doc) she will come around. Has she had an out break? If she hasn't, then i can understand why she would not take it as seriously. Good luck to you-- all i can say is to keep trying and dont give up on her. SHe needs you more than anything right now!!