Question:
Hello all,

My name is Anne and I just found out a little over a week ago that I have herpes. Being a 21 year old VIRGIN i was beside myself! I didn't know who to talk to. I had to tell my roommates because I was crying all the time. I could barley walk for two days. I was one of the lucky few to contract the virus through asymptomatic shedding during oral sex. If would have only known such a thing was possible. This wound is still fresh and is going to take some time to heal. I have been trying to find out as much as I can about the virus. My biggest issue is deciding whether or not I should tell my father and brother. I just don't think they will understand. If my mom were still alive telling an adult (family) would be alot easier, but it is just me and the boys. So I was just wondering did you guys find it easier to keep it on the hush and only tell a very select few or did you disucss this with all of your close friends and family. I would really appreciate your feedback.

Answer:
awhh hunnie! i totally feel for ya... i told my mom and my grandma... only because they had to pay for doctor's visits cuz i'm broke as hell!! but if i didnt have 2 tell them, i wouldnt have. i dunno... telling my family that would have meant that they knew about me being sexually active, and come on... lol not the easiest thing to tell your family when they think you've been a virgin all these years (which i didnt lose mine until recently). i was diagnosed with hsv-1 and i got away with saying i was just kissing someone, but still... lol.. and i havent told any of my friends. i dunno... it's none of their business and who am i to let myself be vulnerable to judgements? not like i'm going around infecting everyone... sheesh.. so i dunno it's totally up to you. i just did what was right for me at the time :)

Answer:
God that breaks my heart. I have heard so many stories like yours recently - asymptomatic oral herpes. And we thought oral sex was the tame cousin of actual intercourse! Shucks, I am sorry. ((((hug)))) It'll be ok in the long run, I swear, but I feel for what you're going through. Been there.