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Hi there!
I was so thrilled to stumble across this site. It may sound ridiculous, but when i got my first outbreak I just felt like the only one on the planet who suffered from Herpes! NOw that I have read a few of the postings here I am so glad there are other peole around here to talk to. My first outbreak occured last april, and it was so bad I had to go to the hospital, then after that I just stayed at home for a week and cried my eyes out. I still don't know who I got it from, and I still feel very uncomfortable telling ppl I have it. Now that 9 months have passed since my first outbreak Im concerned about getting careless. I am dating a guy I really like and I haven't told him yet. Im terrified of scaring him off! Has anyone here been rejected because of Herpes? I wish I could find a guy who also has herpes and we could live together in perfect herpes harmony. Lol

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lol thats cute :D all i can tell you is on here every i think friday and wesenday they have a chatroom where people can meet and talk and some of them also date, look into it a little bit if this guy does end up leaving also when you tell him make sure you know lots of facts about what you have so it will make the "blow" a little less hard.

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thanks guilt ridden!
your name certainly discribes how i feel sometimes. I take it everyone on this msg board has been in a similar situation with a potential sexual partner and its really unpleasant. but let me tell ya, its a great way to stay abstinent! :?

I am also dreading my next outbreak because its so uncertain! its just going to pop up on me one day like an unwelcome guest and I don't know what to expect. Eeek!

Anyways, enough of my rant. I really do like this person, but I still need to figure out whether hes good enough for me to spill my guts. I hate having this little "secret" Its the kind no one wants to share with me! hahaha I will just keep reading the really great posts up here and taking bits and pieces of advice and applying it to my lovely little herpes world.

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Hey there Ouchie, I'm still very new to all this. But I'll tell you my two cents. . .

My last bf was a complicated situation, but after the first time we had unprotected sex he told me he had herpes. I liked him enough to say "Ok, we'll do what we have to to take precautions against this" and we moved on. Eventually I contracted it anyway but that's a whole different can of worms.

Point being, if this person likes you enough, they will think to themselves before running off and treating you as if you are a leper of some sort. If they are superficial they will leave - and who the hell wants to be with someone who doesn't care enough about them to stay with them no matter what? I mean, think about it. If you end up in a serious relationship it could turn into marriage at some point right? And what is the basis of a real best friendship/relationship besides supporting one another throughout EVERYTHING? Focus on that sweetie, and know that if he runs, he's not the one you're meant to be with.

The thing that upset me the most was that my ex hadn't considered me a close enough friend to tell me BEFORE the first time. I made him promise that whomever he dates from this point on has the choice to say yes or no to what they may be getting into. Everyone should have that choice. The important thing is how they react to it.

Everything always works out for the best in the end Ouchie. You aren't alone in being afraid. But your integrity, honesty, and willingness to put yourself out on the line only makes you a better, stronger person. I wish you the best of luck. :wink:

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thank you lost girl
It is such a shame your partner waited to let you know. I certainly dont want to be that person to someone i care about. I still dont even know who i got herpes from, and i would hate for anyone to have to feel alone and scared as i once did.
I know that honesty is the best policy, and If i had had a choice, i would have wanted the person who gave me herpes to have told me before hand. Its just such a terrifying thing to do because it makes you very vulnerable to reactions of disguist and rejection. Perhaps in the end it will make us stronger ppl. I would certainly like to think so!

You guys are the best, ppl with Herpes are the nicest ppl in the world!

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p.s I woke up wih a small blister on the corner of my lip. i have never had a cold sore EVER before, can anyone tell me more about their experiences with cold sores? This is on my lip and its only one, and it doesnt really hurt, its just irritating.