Question:
About four months ago I got drunk with a guy that I trusted. We began kissing but I guess he wanted or expected more. He attacked me and I tried to fight but being 5'2 and 115 lbs I wasn't very effective. The only thing I am thankful for was that he couldn't get an erection, so he grinded on me for at the most a minute. Then he left and told me that if I told anyone he would say that I asked him to do everything. I woke up the next day hungover and itchy. I thought it was a yeast infection, turns out it was herpes. Lifes funny I guess; I am still a virgin and I guess I will never really get to experience carefree sex.
I can't even tell anyone what happened because I don't know if anyone would believe me. Part of what happened was my fault, I shouldn't have placed myself in a situation like that.. but I did and this is what happened. For awhile I walked around in a sort of fatalistic daze, thinking that my life was over; asking over and over again "WHY ME?". But it has gotten easier and some days I even find myself forgetting that I have it. So I am offering hope to everyone who just got diagnosed and is walking around thinking that herpes has completely ended their life. You Will make it, its hard at the beginning but slowly it will become easier. :D

Answer:
People like HIM make me sick.

You SHOULD go to the police. You shouldn't let the bar-steward get away with it! I was infected 12 years ago and it is something that I think about all the time. It's true what you say, don't let it end your life, I have met someone loving and wonderful, who doesn't care that I have the infection. But I wish that I could have done something about the boy who infected me. He new he was infected and didn't care about the repercussions for me. He was scum and becuase I was innocent, and didn't know who to turn to, he got away with it.

Go to the police and make him pay. Not simply for infecting you, but for attacking you too.

Take care.
D

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Thanks Dorcus, your right, I should have gone to the police and reported him for the attack. Unfortunately I can't put all of the blame on him. I made irresponsible choices that lead up to the attack:
I got drunk with a guy I barely knew alone in my room, I made out with him. Then things got out of hand. Iam not saying that he had any right to attack me; but I have forgiven him and moved on with my life, and realized that I was making self destructive choices.
I don't even know whether or not he knows he has herpes. My next move I guess is to get in contact with him and make sure he knows that he has it, but I haven't quite gotten to the point where I can see him again.

It makes me so sad to read all of the stories from other women that have had horrible experiences with men. It seems like even though their is an entire race of wonderful, honorable men their are always a few rotten apples that manage to hurt so many of us. (I guess the same could be said for women too :? ) It gives me hope to see that you have met a good man that doesn't mind the HSV.

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bablefish, how old are you, and how old is the " guilty" party? :?:

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I am eighteen, and the "guilty party" is eighteen also.

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Ok,thanks for the reply. :(