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hey guys ... I just got back from the clinic and was just diagnosed with genital herpes ... . Im scared out of my mind right now and dont know what im going to do .. the doctor wasnt very much help and seemed very reluctant to answer my questions .. I have been dating someone for the last year and she gets tested regularly and at her last test she was clean ... where would I have picked this up ?? Ive been 100% faitful to this girl and have NEVER once cheated on her .. I love her very much and Im very afraid that she is going to leave me ... as soon as I called her and told her what was happening she took it very hard .. someone please help me out here Im freraking out!! :(

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can ANYONE help ease my mind about this ? I know I shouldnt be freaking out half as much as I am but this has been a huge slap in the face for me. The doctor seemed very quick to dismiss this as genital herpes and get me the hell out of his office . he didnt even give me any time to ask any questions .. I was freaking out but now that I've reaserched it abit I've calmed down abit and I know that I dont have any of the common symptoms (body or head aches .. blurry vision) I do have minor chest pains but thats probably for the massive amounts of cigarettes that im smoking at the moment and the stress ... the doc mentioned something about how at first it looked like it might just be an ingrown hair but upon closer inspection he said, and I quote "oh yes youve got yourself a case of the genital herpes" ... guys I feel so alone and scared shitless right now ... Ive told my parents about it .. my father seems pretty sympathetic but my mom has the "that'll teach ya" attitude and the gf thinks Ive cheated on her and she needs time to "take it all in and sort thru it" ... Ive had sores on my mouth since Ive been a baby but never down there .. I have an apt. tommorow after work ... shoudl I ask for some sort of further testing or is it a pretty sure deal just by seeing it there ? to me it looks liek an ingrown hair I have had them before and they seem very similar in nature .. what are the odds that this doc has mis-diagnosed this sore on my weiner ?? sorry for the long post!

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hey guys ... I just got back from the clinic and was just diagnosed with genital herpes ... . Im scared out of my mind right now and dont know what im going to do .. the doctor wasnt very much help and seemed very reluctant to answer my questions .. So sorry to hear that your doctor was being an Iggert to you about your herpes diagnosis!

Not to worry though because there are lots of great reliable resources such as: www.westoverheights.com (free herpes handbook), www.herpesonline.org, and www.yoshi2me.com

I have been dating someone for the last year and she gets tested regularly and at her last test she was clean ... where would I have picked this up ?? Just because she thinks she is "clean" doesn't mean that she is - why? - because herpes is not included in the routine std testing process. People always assume they are being tested for everything when in reality they are not.

Ive been 100% faitful to this girl and have NEVER once cheated on her .. I love her very much and Im very afraid that she is going to leave me ... as soon as I called her and told her what was happening she took it very hard .. someone please help me out here Im freraking out!! :( Just because you have herpes doesn't mean that you cheated or that she cheated. People can have it for years and not know it OR mistake it for something else. 90% of those people that have genital herpes don't even know that they have it. For all you know she could have herpes and not know it.

Try not to jump the gun assuming that somebody has cheated and get your girlfriend in to have proper herpes testing so you can find out her status as well.

For the record, there are hundreds of couples out there just like me and Don where one person has genital herpes and the other doesn't. You can check out our story here:

www.yoshi2me.com/herpes-telling.html

Hang in there,

Angela :D

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hey thanks for the kind words ... now that we've both had a little time to calm down (we were both freaking out pretty well) we talked about it and I think we pretty well traced it back to this one girl I used to date .. she was not so concerned about the herpes itself as the source of it .. I reassured her that ive been faithful to her and we've been on the phone for 3 hours but I think everything will work out .. still a little scary but i feel 100% better now that Ive got someone helping me get through this and Im not alone..