Question:
I dated this girl for a year and a half, and e became the best of friends, and she brought me to her church where i started to really evaluate and live as a chirstian. . . it was perfection at its finest. But i was still young, immature, and didnt obey God. He broke us apart, and now its been another year and a half and our friendship has grown proportionally. She is the only person who i feel comfortable around and i know her like the back of my hand, and visa versa. It is a great friendship to learn about how to really trualy be "just friends" with the opposite sex. i realize that now, but before I still really loved her and was just head over heals for her, but i never pushed it past friendship. We are going to different schools, so i felt that God was seperating anychance of us dating again, but i still felt like she was the only one. i dont know how i could ever know anyone as well as her, ever have as much fun or ever be so open, and helpful with another girl. But she went on a mission trip and started to date this guy from her school. She told me that it is what God wants, and i truely believe her, but it really hurts, and the pain is sometimes unbearable. I know that god has more instore for me, but i really am having a difficult time pushing aside my bitterness. I know that we will remain the best of friends but i just dont want to see her face because of how much pain it is. I know this is somewhat of a classical case, so im hoping for some advice on what to do. I guess i really have no motivation yet for doing stuff, and im really scared about the future. I dont want to ruin our friendship, but i dont know how to deal with the pain when i see her. I just automatically shutdown. Any help, hope and prayer would be fantastic. The only thing that keeps me going is that I am training to be a missionary and I get to serve God, but i feel like i want to do it right this second because the pain is making it feel like eternity until i get to go into a mission field that i want to go to.
thanks
Jake
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First of all I dought you are bokenhearted unless you have an extreme affinity for the martial arts
I wonder if you have placed your faith in signs and omens and not godly wisdom. First of all, breaking up over going to a different school is not inevitable, nor does it indicate any plans of God.
God very seldom tells people who to marry. In fact the only examples I can think of were extraordinary. Hosea, (Go marry a hooker) and Joseph, (Its not your baby it's mine, marry her any way).
Perhaps your problem is that you are looking for a sign and missed an opportunity. I might tell her that I am having to back off from the friendship out of respect for your current relationship and am struggling with my feelings being more than that of freindship. (worded in a way that doesn't sound so stilted.)
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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq First of all I dought you are bokenhearted unless you have an extreme affinity for the martial arts
lol, thanks for the laugh
Ill take what you said to heart. Thank you.
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I know that we will remain the best of friends but i just dont want to see her face because of how much pain it is. I know this is somewhat of a classical case, so im hoping for some advice on what to do. I guess i really have no motivation yet for doing stuff, and im really scared about the future. I dont want to ruin our friendship, but i dont know how to deal with the pain when i see her. I just automatically shutdown. Any help, hope and prayer would be fantastic.
My young brother-- I wish there was some pill or words tht would ease the pain of a lost love and broken heart--butr there is none. Time will be the healer and you will struggle with your emotions. But if you stay faithful to the Lord as best you can-- you will get through this and have grown and matured and become a better testomony of Him. Remember Romans 8 "all things work together fro the good for those who love God and are the called according to His purposes." This will turn to good--Hang on! Weep if you must mourn as you need to butr remember God is still on the throne.