Question:
ok, let me first start off by saying im extreamly obsessive about the house being clean...to the point where i have, over the years, started pretty much pulling everyones weight in cleaning the house.. my mom doesnt clean, and my stepdad, when he makes messes, and i say something about cleaning it up, all he sais is "i pay the bills". so recently i asked them about trying to even out the chores with my sister, and they compleatly misconstrewed my request , with that i should trade chores with my sister..my sister doesnt care about how clean the house is, and i do... i told my parents when we decided, that even though it would be alot less work for me, that if she didnt keep the house clean, then i would want to switch back, and even though i would be doing more work, at least the place would be clean.. Now several weeks later, the house is always messy, my parents are always yelling about it..(but they dont do anything about it, OR even clean up after themselves)and my OCD is driving me up the wall.. i mentioned to them that i want to resume my old chores , and actually keep the house clean, but they dont agree to that, because they say that my sister diserves to not have to do dishes, and for some reason they seem to appreciate everything she does more than what i do.. i think i have spoiled them, and they expect it out of me, to the point where they make me do stuff... anyway, it has gotten really out of hand, and there have been several disputes where they seem to think that after all this, I am the bad guy! i try my best to hold myself in, but there the kind of peopled who like to push our buttons ALOT to see if we will eventually snap back, and when we finally do, they feel they've lost control of us, and they have to to alot of disipline to get that control back...
Im SOO sorry if all this sounds like rambling, but im soooo overwhelmed right now and i need some rational christian advice (my stepdad is not a christian, and my mom is, but she doesnt live a christian lifestyle).. please any advice would be appreciated.. i only praise God that i only have one more school year left before college!
Answer:
Well from the sounds of things, you've already tried talking rationally to your parents about it, but they just aren't agreeing with you or ignoring it. Really the only advice I have besides maybe talking to them again and telling them that it's important that the house stays clean, and that it's not your responsibility to clean everything would be to just try and wait it out. Like you said, only one more year before college, and then you won't have to deal with it.
Of course if you go live in a college dorm you very well might have a similar problem to the one that you have now regarding things being clean. So it might be worth trying to (if it is something that interferes with your day-to-day life) try tackling your OCD regarding things being clean.
Now I'm not saying that wanting to have a clean house is a bad thing, but if it's an obsession that keeps you from doing other things until it's taken care of, then it might be worth seeking some help for that, as OCD is a pretty common thing and can be treated.
Anyway. Sorry I couldn't be more help, but I hope this at least gives you something to think about. Hang in there bro...only one more year, right?