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I've been a very shy person and now I want to get out of that shell. However, I'm lacking in even basic social skills and I need advice on what to do.
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Originally Posted by StrangeCompany I've been a very shy person and now I want to get out of that shell. However, I'm lacking in even basic social skills and I need advice on what to do. What to do...relating to what?
If you asking what you need to do to get social skills, that's something you get just by experience. You'll say stupid things, you'll do things stupid stuff, you'll be embaressed. Eventually you'll learn what is appropriate in certain circles and what is not.
If you're asking what you need to do to be less shy...be part of a play or musical production. Join a band. Make a band. Do something that forces you out of your comfort zone. Eventually you'll be comfortable doing things you weren't comfortable with before.
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Dance like no one's watching.
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Get a lot of caffiene in your system, take off all your clothes, slap on a cowboy hat, carry a guitar and sing about Superman.
That ought to get you pretty un-shy.
But seriously. Social skills are not formulaic. It just happens. It takes conscious effort, though. That is one thing that you always have to do.
Me? It took singing "I'm a little teapot" in front of 300 people to make me realize that being shy can be pretty damaging.
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get to know people. lots of people. make a bunch of new friends and you'll find that you'll gradually get to be a little more outgoing along the way. that's how i did it. i used to be in the exact same situation.
join a club or two, that always helps alot. as for the worry of "what if they don't like me?", remember, you'll never know if you never try, and odds are they will probably find you to be a cool person to be brave enough to introduce yourself...
like i said before, i used to be like you. now i can just walk up to random people and introduce myself, and not one of them has neglected me. i meet around 5 people every day.
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Originally Posted by sunsurfer get to know people. lots of people. make a bunch of new friends and you'll find that you'll gradually get to be a little more outgoing along the way. that's how i did it. i used to be in the exact same situation.
join a club or two, that always helps alot. as for the worry of "what if they don't like me?", remember, you'll never know if you never try, and odds are they will probably find you to be a cool person to be brave enough to introduce yourself...
like i said before, i used to be like you. now i can just walk up to random people and introduce myself, and not one of them has neglected me. i meet around 5 people every day. yes that is great advice.....just relax, be lose and cool, and most importantly be yourself...if people can't accept you for who you are....then their not worth it...are you in high school?....if so join some clubs or sports.....
don't spend too much time thinking of conversation starters, but it helps to have an idea on hand....to help carry conversation....that way people can know you better....
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Just remember, they're people just like you. Most are essentially nice, and seriously, it's fine if you do something stupid or maybe a little embarrassing. Those things only become bad if you make them bad. I make a joke out of myself constantly, you just have to know that everyone does.
Like Nate said...
"Dance like no one's watching."
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Originally Posted by Rainer. Just remember, they're people just like you. Most are essentially nice, and seriously, it's fine if you do something stupid or maybe a little embarrassing. Those things only become bad if you make them bad. I make a joke out of myself constantly, you just have to know that everyone does.
Like Nate said...
"Dance like no one's watching." +1
If you're worried people won't like you, then try and develop a little self confidence by modifying your thought process this way: you are just as much a person as they are, and they really have no right to judge you before they've met you. If they have judged you as "unworthy" at first glance, then they might just not be the nicest people to spend time with
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i agree with HolyRockJfreak, if they don't, then they don't deserve to have you as a friend.
and if you do embarrass yourself, just laugh about it. i've heard that it helps.
always have your sense of humor handy.
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Originally Posted by sunsurfer i agree with HolyRockJfreak, if they don't, then they don't deserve to have you as a friend.
and if you do embarrass yourself, just laugh about it. i've heard that it helps.
always have your sense of humor handy.
I agree....it can help if you're around good people....I do it all the time...and always have humor ready....