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me and my b/f have been going out for like,5 months and im 13 so yea anyways i love him with all my heart and i dont want to break ^ with him but i want to slow down a bit. how do i tell him?
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While I wouldn't advise anyone to date at 13...
"Hey. I don't want to break up with you or anything, but I really want to slow down a bit."
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Just tell him how you are feeling
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"Why ya all up in mah grill, dawg? You best slow ya roll down, y'hear?"
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Originally Posted by Nate "Why ya all up in mah grill, dawg? You best slow ya roll down, y'hear?" psshhh. lousy white boy be playin' in my hizzouse now. you best be ready dawg. i'm 'onna send you home to momma in a box.
While I realise you don't want to break up with him it may be the best thing to do. I know personally how hard it is to slow down a relationship that is flying off the charts. It's like jumping in front of a freight train (heck even a volkswagon would illustrate my point enough here) and trying to stop it with your bare hands. But you should at least save that as plan B if nothing else. Definitely tell him though to begin with. It may floor him (as it did with me) but it HAS to be said. Subtleties and implications are useless at this point, drill it into his head.
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Also, if he truly cares for you, then slowing down will be no big deal to him. BUT, be completely honest with him about your reasoning for slowing down. My girlfriend and I slowed down a month into our relationship, and also most recently at the four month part, and I care about her a lot, so I know slowing down will only benefit us both. The greatest thing was the fact she sat down and we talked about why she needed to slow down and at the same time I found reasons I needed to. She made it clear it was nothing I did, which let me rest at peace also.
So like I said, honesty is very important at this stage....