Question:
OK so, my bf's at a Vacation Bible School, and my sister went, along with ALOT of my other friends. So my sister came home and she reported the day's activities. And it turns out alot of girls were flirting with my boyfriend, so i dunno what to think now. She said he wasnt flirting back but I guess I'm kinda worried, hes supposed to be there for a week I think, and i dunno.
We've been together for about 3 months, and before that he was my best friend of 6 years, so we trust each other alot, and I do trust him not to do anything with another girl, but i'm kinda unsettled I guess. So I dunno what to do now.
Thanks,
bree
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Heya,
You trust him a lot, but you're worried? About what?
Sounds like you don't really trust him enough. Maybe I'm missing something though.
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yeah i am worried mostly because im afriad the girl will do something.
thats why im confused lol...i dunno what to think right now
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well if hes at a vacation bible school with tons of girls and not you and is not flirting then he is a great guy. as long as he isn't leading another girl on to think he is interested they have no reason to think they can do anything. don't sweat it. if your still jealous then pray.
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Jealousy is not always something you can get over very quickly. It may take time. Just keep reminding yourself over and over how much you trust him and the reasons why you trust him. When you find yourself worrying about it, instead think of something about him that you really like. The more you stay focused on your relationship with him instead of worrying about what's happening between him and other girls (because it really sounds like nothing is happening) then the easier it will be to trust him.
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Honestly, I think your feelings are very natural. Jealousy is a reaction to protect a relationship, and as with everything there are extremes. There are people who are extremely jealous who use their jealousy to control thier sig. other.
IMO, red flags *should* be going up for you when other women are flirting with your man, but, and here's the key, *his* reaction tells you whether or not you can keep those flags raised, or just lower them down and push through the jealousy. Like you said, you trust him and it sounds as if he was being a respectful, responsible boyfriend.
Also, like I alluded to above what *you* do with your jealousy is important. You can react badly or react well. To react badly means to call your boyfriend up, throw accusations, and try to control him in every little thing he does, but a good reaction is to *behave* in a way that shows that you trust him despite what you might be feeling at that moment.
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I know how you feel. Jealousy is a feeling that comes on its own. If we could get rid of it all together, I know we would. But, the fact is, it happens.
Sometimes I think, other girls are flirting with him, this is bad! But then I think that he would never fall for any of them anyways because respectable girls don't flirt with a taken guy. Plus, he likes you. You are the one he asked out and you are the one he's dating. I know you can't help the feeling sometimes, but do what you can to think positive. He likes YOU girl. Hopefully that made some sense to you haha But really, you are not the only one for feeling that way and you don't have to feel bad for it. Just remember that there is no need to be jealous if he is not responding to the flirting.