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im 18 and i just graduated high school, in fact i just got back from the ceremony and there was something i needed to say to someone. i moved to the school district in 7th and i was very shy pretty much not speaking to anyone. by freshman year i was still very quiet and everyone else just kind of ignored me, probably figuring i wanted to be left me alone (when i desperatly wanted to make friends). then today, i realized i still havent made a single friend. at the end of graduation i saw everyone going to their friends and exchanging emails and stuff so they can keep in touch when they go away and to college and such, while i didnt exchange info with anyone; i dont think anyone would care the slightest if i never saw them again. I felt really alone and i jsut started thinking about my life and how ive never been to a party, gone to a movie with someone, gone on a date, and didnt go to prom. i was realized that throughtout highschool ive just been hoping the days would go by so i the boredom of being alone would stop and now that it is over, i regret it beyond words. i guess to sum it up, im having a really hard time realizing that high school is over and i basically have no good memories about it. i dont if anyone can help me, i just needed to get this out.
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UNfortunately, those days are gone and there's no way to get them back. But what you can do is not make the same mistake with college. Get out there, make friends, *insert other college stuff I didn't do*.
If you hadn't guessed, I'm fairly anti-social myself. So I know how this all feels.
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Ah yes, I do miss my days in high school..... Wait a minute, no I don't. I was fairly anti-social too when I was in school. I only talked to the people in my band at the time. And the occasional girlfriend or 2. But yeah I don't think what I have to say would help you any so I'll shut up.
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there is one... no, maybe 2 people from my highschool who'd still be interested in having anything to do with me. From college? a few people would say hello and how are you but that's the extent of it.
High school may have passed you by but you have work, college, church, whatever else you may do to use to make new friends. You have a choice to sit and feel bad that you missed all those parties and all that... erm... fun... or move on and make friends now. Have fun now.
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Yes, but what about those who did all that stuff in high school? The ones in the popular cliques, the ones who lived for the parties.........those days are over for them. Their social status in high school means absolutely nothing in the real world. Same goes for you. So high school sucked.......it doesn't matter now. Heck, you should be glad those days are over because you can start over, in a sense. Sitting around, thinking about the past won't get you very far. I've tried it, believe me. Go out and say hi to some people.
Anyhow, CGR is a great place to start. Post a bit on here. People will get to know you and like you.
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I felt really alone and i jsut started thinking about my life and how ive never been to a party, gone to a movie with someone, gone on a date, and didnt go to prom. i was realized that throughtout highschool ive just been hoping the days would go by so i the boredom of being alone would stop and now that it is over, i regret it beyond words.
I know how you feel exactly.
When I was in highschool, I never did anything at all, except work and prom. Everyone mostly ignored me, just like you talk about.
I even almost had a boyfriend once. He was the only one who paid attention to me and he was creepy though so we never officially dated. I learned a lot from it and had some regrets too,
but I didn't feel anything much except lonely/bored all the time after that.
Do you know the song "I Wanna Live" (Josh Gracin) that goes
"Sometimes I feel like I need to shake myself, to wake myself:
I feel like I'm just sleep walkin' through out life.
It's like I'm swimmin' in an ocean of emotion,
But still, somehow, slowly goin' numb inside.
I don't like who I'm becomin', I know I've gotta do somethin',
Before my life passes right by.
College or a new job is a great time to "start over" because you can build a new reputation. No one has any old memories of you anymore!
...
Sometimes I wonder why I work so hard to guard my heart.
Well, I hardly feel anything at all.
I've spent my whole life buildin' up this ivory tower.
Now that I'm in it, I keep wishin' it would fall...."
I felt like I was working SO hard to "guard my heart" (by not dating or not getting to close to people, etc.) that I was almost afraid to even be friends with people, and just love my friends. It made life nothing. What is life if you don't have any hearache, ever. If you didn't have a care in the world?
I learned that "the heart that's afraid to break never learns to dance"
That being said, I got a boyfriend as I was graduating highschool/starting college (- not a time I'd recomend to have a relationship coz you're just too busy!) and I learned to love, what it is to be loved and how to HAVE FUN with your friends! But I also learned some other tricks, so even though you can't hide in a cave and be afraid to love (doesn't have to be a bf/gf, even just friends) you still have to be careful.
Life is nothing without some emotions. You don't have to rush out and find a "date" but DO try to make some friends. I have learned, talking to someone new never killed anybody! What's the worst that could happen from "Hi, I'm ________ who are you?" ya never know what could happen
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Originally Posted by njguitar im 18 and i just graduated high school, in fact i just got back from the ceremony and there was something i needed to say to someone. i moved to the school district in 7th and i was very shy pretty much not speaking to anyone. by freshman year i was still very quiet and everyone else just kind of ignored me, probably figuring i wanted to be left me alone (when i desperatly wanted to make friends). then today, i realized i still havent made a single friend. at the end of graduation i saw everyone going to their friends and exchanging emails and stuff so they can keep in touch when they go away and to college and such, while i didnt exchange info with anyone; i dont think anyone would care the slightest if i never saw them again. I felt really alone and i jsut started thinking about my life and how ive never been to a party, gone to a movie with someone, gone on a date, and didnt go to prom. i was realized that throughtout highschool ive just been hoping the days would go by so i the boredom of being alone would stop and now that it is over, i regret it beyond words. i guess to sum it up, im having a really hard time realizing that high school is over and i basically have no good memories about it. i dont if anyone can help me, i just needed to get this out.
Well, I have hardly any good memories of High school either. High School can be the best time of your life or the worst.
I had a good time in college, even after a very sucky high school experience. The key thing to remember is that life has not passed ou by, you let high school pass by.
Life is not responsible for passivity, and high school is not life, so try to grab life by its horns on the next go round.
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Originally Posted by njguitar im 18 and i just graduated high school, in fact i just got back from the ceremony and there was something i needed to say to someone. i moved to the school district in 7th and i was very shy pretty much not speaking to anyone. by freshman year i was still very quiet and everyone else just kind of ignored me, probably figuring i wanted to be left me alone (when i desperatly wanted to make friends). then today, i realized i still havent made a single friend. at the end of graduation i saw everyone going to their friends and exchanging emails and stuff so they can keep in touch when they go away and to college and such, while i didnt exchange info with anyone; i dont think anyone would care the slightest if i never saw them again. I felt really alone and i jsut started thinking about my life and how ive never been to a party, gone to a movie with someone, gone on a date, and didnt go to prom. i was realized that throughtout highschool ive just been hoping the days would go by so i the boredom of being alone would stop and now that it is over, i regret it beyond words. i guess to sum it up, im having a really hard time realizing that high school is over and i basically have no good memories about it. i dont if anyone can help me, i just needed to get this out.
At 18, life has hardly passed you by. You may have missed an opportunity in high school, but you're given new chances every day. Make the most of what you have now.

Honestly, I'm 35 and don't look that fondly on my high school days that much. I had fun but as I get older those memories have been replaced by things much more meaningful. If you feel empty....fill that spot with things now.
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Originally Posted by Lee Modlin At 18, life has hardly passed you by. You may have missed an opportunity in high school, but you're given new chances every day. Make the most of what you have now.

Honestly, I'm 35 and don't look that fondly on my high school days that much. I had fun but as I get older those memories have been replaced by things much more meaningful. If you feel empty....fill that spot with things now. Advice doesn't get any better or more real than that.
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I'm 24, and I'm not in contact with anybody from secondary school, and only one or two people from college. I never went to a party, never went on a date (still haven't) and skipped not only the prom (which admittedly, isn't the big deal in Canada that it is in the US), but also my graduation ceremony. In secondary school, people exchange e-mail addresses, and say that they'll write or call, but they never do. The fact is that these days, they drift apart. You'll have plenty of more chances. In fact, other than getting a diploma (which I didn't even get, since I skipped the ceremony, and though they said that they mailed it, I never got anything from them), secondary school never even really left much of an impact on me. I felt the same way when I was 18, but as a few years passed, I came to realise what a little part of my life secondary school was. Life is full of oppertunities to make friends and experience things that school doesn't offer.
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I think i know exactly how you feel. When I graduated, I really regreted not being more socially active in high school.
Just don't make the mistake of expecting things to magically change just because you're out of highschool. Yes, some of the drama and the cliques and the popularity go away, but not all of it. And in college, if you don't make an effort to get to know people it's even easier to go completely unnoticed... especially if you commute like I do. Really great friends can be hard to come by, but it's impossible to make any friends at all if you don't put any effort into it.