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I can do anything i want and i dont feel guilty. what is wrong with me, i think my concence is broken or something, in the past week i have done a lot of stuff with multiple guys and i feel nothing, i keep doing it and letting them do it to me, i dont know what is wrong with me, i have lied to my mom cuase i got back together with my ex boyfriend who im not allowed to go out with and we went to a movie and stuff happened, and what is worse is that im a devout christian, i go to church every sunday, ive excepted christ in my heart, but i think im addiced to sexual stuff, im a virgin and i wont have sex with anyone, but i do almost everything else, today there was two guys and i let them do anything they wanted, except have sex with me and i dont feel guilty about it. i dont even care if no one posts anything back i just needed to tell someone cuase my firend is getting tired of me telling her what i did with another guy. anyways, yeah, bye
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This is a common problem among Christians today. I think there needs to be some fine tunning of the conscience. Your conscience isn't broken just numb. I would pray to God and ask for him to help you. I would check yourself, especially what entertainment you are expossing yourself to like music, movies, etc. And I would try to not dwell on bad thoughts that will lead you astray.
You said you don't have sex but everything else, I don't know exactly what you are talking about but if you are doing something that isn't totally right I would talk to someone about it. DO you have a youth pastor or good Christian friend to talk to?
If you don't send me a private message on the CGR forum and I will help you with whatever is bugging you.
God Bless you for being honest!
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Remember Jesus can solve all your problems if you believe.
God Bless!
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Maybe the reason you are worried about all this is a start. Remember : Guilt leads nowhere. By feeling guilty we condemn ourselves and think that god does not love us. If we live by the law we are condemned. Jesus died so that we could be no longer slaves of the law, but slaves of grace and richeousness. If you are a christian I have some good news : You are not condemed by sin. You are dead to sin and therefore richeous before god. That's grace.
This guy is mad your saying ? well no!!! But there is another thing about grace : It helps us flee sin and immorality. By the grace of god we have the power to say NO to sin!!!! This is an encouraging thought. Try to remember that you did NOTHING to deserve this grace and it is a free gift from god. We have a god that is for us and that can help us with sin : Not by guilt or condemnation, but by his grace and love. Be carefull about what christians call "legalism" and which is bassically : oh no i've done it again god doesnt love me, in other words trying to obey the law through our own strength, this condemns us. Ask god to help you understand the amazing truth of his lavish grace and help you with sin. Also consience and guilt are different
It's by grace we can say NO to earthly desires!!
Good luck
If you want to have a read on grace (of course you might know about it but understanding grace can change your life as a christian) romans is a very good book. And I can also recommend god's Lavish grace writen by terry Virgo, which is a great book too.
I hope this helps
Hey! remember god loves you and won't let you down.
If theres anything you dont understand feel free to ask about it and comment what I said.
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Originally Posted by HolyRockJfreak This is a common problem among Christians today. I think there needs to be some fine tunning of the conscience. Your conscience isn't broken just numb. I would pray to God and ask for him to help you. I would check yourself, especially what entertainment you are expossing yourself to like music, movies, etc. And I would try to not dwell on bad thoughts that will lead you astray.
You said you don't have sex but everything else, I don't know exactly what you are talking about but if you are doing something that isn't totally right I would talk to someone about it. DO you have a youth pastor or good Christian friend to talk to?
If you don't send me a private message on the CGR forum and I will help you with whatever is bugging you.
God Bless you for being honest!
Yes this is true too. It's important to find someone you can trust to talk to about big issues. I managed to find the courage to do this about something and it's helped.
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Originally Posted by dnl88
This guy is mad your saying ? well no!!! But there is another thing about grace : It helps us flee sin and immorality. By the grace of god we have the power to say NO to sin!!!! This is an encouraging thought. Try to remember that you did NOTHING to deserve this grace and it is a free gift from god. We have a god that is for us and that can help us with sin : Not by guilt or condemnation, but by his grace and love. Be carefull about what christians call "legalism" and which is bassically : oh no i've done it again god doesnt love me, in other words trying to obey the law through our own strength, this condemns us. Ask god to help you understand the amazing truth of his lavish grace and help you with sin. Also consience and guilt are different
It's by grace we can say NO to earthly desires!!
Great explanation! God Bless!
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I have no grace. I feel like God has abandon me. I have 4 guys that I've done stuff with, and they don't really know about eachother. I feel like a freaking whore and I can't help it. I put on this show for the people in my church, yet I am texting a guy, talking about what I'm gonna do to him the second I finish church. I am such a mess. My parents weren't home the other afternoon, and so I called a guy, and two actually came over, and we fooled around and my brother almost walked in on us, but I had locked the door. I let guys do anything they want to me, aside from having sex, and I like it, but it is starting to get to me. I wish I could go back in time, before I got here and tell myself not to be a whore. It is how I get attention, cause no one likes me, which is why no one is posting any advice or helping me and I'm tired of it. I wish I could just die, or get a new life. I want to be a loner right now, but my friends won't let me. I wish guys would just leave me alone, yet I want them to touch me. I'm so messed up. I just need one person to talk to that has been in my position and that can help me. If anyone has done half the stuff I have, please email me, spiffy_evilpenguin@yahoo.com.
Kate
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Originally Posted by blair_summers I have no grace. I feel like God has abandon me. God will give you grace and give you a new start if you let him.
God doesn't abandon us, we abandon God. We fall away from his perfect will.
Originally Posted by blair_summers I have 4 guys that I've done stuff with, and they don't really know about eachother. I feel like a freaking whore and I can't help it. I put on this show for the people in my church, yet I am texting a guy, talking about what I'm gonna do to him the second I finish church. I am such a mess. My parents weren't home the other afternoon, and so I called a guy, and two actually came over, and we fooled around and my brother almost walked in on us, but I had locked the door. I think that you need to find someone to be accountable to (like a friend or a Christian older women in our Church, who may know what you are going through) or maybe try to find a good Christian boy to hang around so he can help you. Originally Posted by blair_summers I let guys do anything they want to me, aside from having sex, and I like it, but it is starting to get to me. Don't give yourself up like that, you are just degrading yourself.
Listen there is a better way-Jesus said in John 10:10 "I have come that they may have life and have it to the full."
Originally Posted by blair_summers I wish I could go back in time, before I got here and tell myself not to be a whore. It is how I get attention, cause no one likes me, which is why no one is posting any advice or helping me and I'm tired of it. You can't go back in time but you can start over with God's help. I'm sure there is someone out there that cares about you. If you don't know anyone right now try to find a youth group there are people there that already care about you. I think people aren't posting because maybe they agree with the advice, but it's not because they don't like you.
Originally Posted by blair_summers I wish I could just die, or get a new life. You can start all over but you need to repent of it first and then ask God to give you a second chance and he will. Dying won't solve your problem, God put you on this Earth for a reason and it wasn't to just die when things get tough.
Originally Posted by blair_summers I want to be a loner right now, but my friends won't let me. I wish guys would just leave me alone, yet I want them to touch me. I'm so messed up. I just need one person to talk to that has been in my position and that can help me. If anyone has done half the stuff I have, please email me, spiffy_evilpenguin@yahoo.com.
Kate I can't say I've been through what you've been through but post on this forum or send me a private message via CGR and I will personally help you if no one contacts you within two days let me know and I will personally help you.
God loves and cares about you he wants you have the best life possible.
Here are my ending words of encouragement
"Take a little pain and gain a life of joy
Accepting pleasure now will earn a life of dread
It all seems backwards in my head, my head
I know it seems too wrong to be right
THis way is so much harder too fight
But in the end I know it is true
This way is better, better for you" -Kutless "Better for You"
God Bless!
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Originally Posted by blair_summers I have no grace. I feel like God has abandon me. I have 4 guys that I've done stuff with, and they don't really know about eachother. I feel like a freaking whore and I can't help it. This post of yours shows that God has not left you. You wouldn't wish that things were another way if He wasn't busy showing you what you should be turning from. I know it may feel like He isn't for you, but only so long as you are putting your identity in your actions. God says those actions are evil, but if you believe in Christ don't get that confused with yourself, because you are a child of God. And yes, there is nothing we can do in our own strength to stop sinning, we need to trust in His grace and His wisdom.
I put on this show for the people in my church, yet I am texting a guy, talking about what I'm gonna do to him the second I finish church. I am such a mess. This is the first thing that needs to change, you need to find someone who you can trust and confess to them. Confess your sin of immorality as well as your duplicity, confess your desire to do what is right, confess your seeming inability to do so, and with that other person in prayer claim Christ's ability in your life.
1 John 1
5This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all. 6If we claim to have fellowship with him yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live by the truth. 7But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin.
8If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
We are the body of Christ, and if one part of a body gets hurt, it can't tend to itself, can it? In the same way we need each other. Find someone who will not only listen, but encourage you in Christ and help you do what it takes to turn from this lifestyle.
My parents weren't home the other afternoon, and so I called a guy, and two actually came over, and we fooled around and my brother almost walked in on us, but I had locked the door. I let guys do anything they want to me, aside from having sex, and I like it, but it is starting to get to me. I wish I could go back in time, before I got here and tell myself not to be a whore. It is how I get attention, cause no one likes me, which is why no one is posting any advice or helping me and I'm tired of it. I wish I could just die, or get a new life. I want to be a loner right now, but my friends won't let me. Hey now, I'm sure somebody likes you if they aren't letting you be a loner. Besides, it doesn't matter what people think when the Maker of the universe says you are His beautiful, cherished daughter. Most of these things you are thinking is satan lying to you about who you are, one of the first things to do is to try and examine every thought, and make sure it is the same as what God says. He sees that on the inside you don't like this, that you want to do what is right. In fact, He is the one that put those desires in you. See now, look what grace He has given, even Paul had troubles with sin.
Romans 7
21So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. 22For in my inner being I delight in God's law; 23but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. 24What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? 25Thanks be to God—through Jesus Christ our Lord!
So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God's law, but in the sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.
8:1Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, 2because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death.
The Spirit of life is in you, you need only to listen to Him and submit to Him. This can be hard with everything we hear in the world and all the lies satan tells us, and that is why we need other Christians, to help remind each other of God's truth and to expose lies as they come up. It won't work if we just want to look good, we need to be honest with each other to let God's light shine in the deeper parts of us to get those straightened out.
I wish guys would just leave me alone, yet I want them to touch me. I'm so messed up. I just need one person to talk to that has been in my position and that can help me. If anyone has done half the stuff I have, please email me, spiffy_evilpenguin@yahoo.com.
Kate I want to respect the wonderful girls that God has put in my life, but there is a constant fight for integrity in that. Sometimes I don't do well, sometimes I do the very thing I hate, but the key is truth and accountability. It is easier for me when I am reading God's word and reminding myself of who He created me to be and what purposes I live for. It's easiest when I can often talk with a good friend of mine who battles the same way, so I see their fight and it reminds me to fight, and we tell each other to keep fighting strong by looking at what scripture tells us to do and doing it.
And that is the fight, by the way--it's to not simply stop the sin, but to do what is good and true and pure. God created us to love and serve Him and others, and if we aren't doing that then we are living selfishly, and living selfishly is the fast-track to sin. You may not feel right doing things of righteousness with this in your life, but don't look at the sin, Christ died to take it away. Just look at God, your loving Father who will hold you by the hand as you join with him in all the good things that He does in people's lives.
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Originally Posted by blair_summers I have no grace. I feel like God has abandon me. I have 4 guys that I've done stuff with, and they don't really know about eachother. I feel like a freaking whore and I can't help it. I put on this show for the people in my church, yet I am texting a guy, talking about what I'm gonna do to him the second I finish church. I am such a mess. My parents weren't home the other afternoon, and so I called a guy, and two actually came over, and we fooled around and my brother almost walked in on us, but I had locked the door. I let guys do anything they want to me, aside from having sex, and I like it, but it is starting to get to me. I wish I could go back in time, before I got here and tell myself not to be a whore. Don't you see? You do feel guilt. You're just caught in a trap so many of us have also been in where no matter how much you want out of your sin, there's always something tugging on your leg dragging you back in. It's these lies about God abandoning you that Satan has implanted into your mind that cause you to lose hope.
It is how I get attention, cause no one likes me, which is why no one is posting any advice or helping me and I'm tired of it. It's not because they don't like you. This is a very sticky situation that most people are uncomfortable with. As mod here, I personally have no real excuse, I've failed you by not talking to you and I apologize.
I wish I could just die, or get a new life. I want to be a loner right now, but my friends won't let me. I wish guys would just leave me alone, yet I want them to touch me. I'm so messed up. You need to be thankful for your friends. They must be able to see that you're in pain and want to help you through this. I think a good idea (to get the guys away from you) would be to get rid of your cell phone or at least get rid of the text messaging option on it. All it's doing is facilitating your sin and it needs to go.
I just need one person to talk to that has been in my position and that can help me. If anyone has done half the stuff I have, please email me, spiffy_evilpenguin@yahoo.com.
Kate I haven't been in this particular situation but I can be there to offer some encouragement. I don't know if you'd be comfortable with it though so I'll just leave the offer up before I add you.