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Do you feel that it is only right to tell a person that you love them if you are committed to marrying them? Do you think that it is only right to tell a person that you love them only if you are willing to commit to something such as marraige? Or do you believe that saying you love someone can be a commitment of something less than marriage, and if so, what kind of commitment? To specify: romantic love, not family or friendly love.
I'm just curious to know the opinion of those who reside on CGR.
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I tell people that I have absolutely no intention of ever marrying, dating, etc that I love them... even people that are close to my own age, the opposite sex, and not related to me. I see no problem with telling someone that you care about (this doesn't have to be romantic) that you love them.
Some people say that "love" is an overused word, but I beg to differ. I think it's one of the most underused words in most of our vocabularies.
In His love,
Nate
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It can be awkward at times but I don't think saying I love you is reserved for only a marriage. It depends on what kind of love that would determine whether you should say it or not.
Friendship love - I'd have no problem telling my best friends that I love them. Usually it'd be followed by a "man" so as not to appear fruity. (^_^)
Romantic love - should only be made known to someone you are in a committed relationship with. It's one of (if not the most) emotionally charged sentences out there and holds a lot of weight. And the power of the phrase in itself is enough to scare most uncommitted people away.
As Christians we are told to love everyone. I personally don't see much problem with making that known to people I'm close to.
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For my question, I'm basically asking about romantic love. I'll edit that in my first post so it's easier for people to find out what I meant, but I'll say it here, too. I tell my friends that I love them to. Family as well. But in this instance, I meant romantic. Sorry for the lack of specification.
I agree, though, with not overusing it. It does carry a lot of weight, and as when you're carrying a lot of weight, if you're not careful, you'll drop it, and it'll hurt. A lot.
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romantically? I'd say yes "love" gets thrown around too much. The rest of my answer is in my other post.
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I think it is possible to romantically love more than one person in your lifetime. I also think it is okay to tell someone when you love them.
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Originally Posted by Chris romantically? I'd say yes "love" gets thrown around too much. But if you meant it, and you're not throwing it around, is it still okay to tell it to someone you love romantically?
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Originally Posted by unneccessary But if you meant it, and you're not throwing it around, is it still okay to tell it to someone you love romantically? So long as you are not romantically committed to someone or the person you're saying it to isn't romantically committed to someone else I think it'd be ok. So long as you do have a strong relationship with the person in the first place.
I think we're slipping, no one has posted this verse
Proverbs 27:5
Better is open rebuke than hidden love.
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I agree thus far, but I believe a lot of people mistake the warm feeling with the true feeling of love. Especially teenagers.
I told all my former girlfriends I loved them. I told them I loved them early in the relationship. Now that I look back on it, I regret it. Because I realize I didn't love them in the way I was trying to describe.
Now, I've been dating a girl for three and a half months, we are awesome friends, and on the friendship level, I love her so much. Yet in a romantic level, I have no idea what love is, thus I can't even begin to use that to describe how I feel.
IMO, you know when you're in love, and that's when to use it. People who claim they love their significant other should be willing to be committed forever to them.
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Originally Posted by Chris Proverbs 27:5
Better is open rebuke than hidden love. I think that's a good verse. What do you think it means in this case, in a practical example? I understand what the verse says, but I'd like to hear how that might work.
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Originally Posted by unneccessary I think that's a good verse. What do you think it means in this case, in a practical example? I understand what the verse says, but I'd like to hear how that might work. i think that verse might have been taken out of context. "Better open rebuke...", it's better to correct someone you love... "than hidden love...", then to let them get away with whatever they're doing. i could be wrong though.
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Originally Posted by unneccessary Do you feel that it is only right to tell a person that you love them if you are committed to marrying them? Do you think that it is only right to tell a person that you love them only if you are willing to commit to something such as marraige? Or do you believe that saying you love someone can be a commitment of something less than marriage, and if so, what kind of commitment? To specify: romantic love, not family or friendly love.
I'm just curious to know the opinion of those who reside on CGR. Telling someone that you love them is saying that no matter what happens you will always love them. because what is love? love never fails. i think couples should wait before saying ILU to each other until they are ready to get married.
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Originally Posted by WorshipJesus Telling someone that you love them is saying that no matter what happens you will always love them. because what is love? love never fails. i think couples should wait before saying ILU to each other until they are ready to get married.
I don't think so, because without knowledge of the mutual bond of love between the two of you, the relationship can't progress to the point where marriage is more than a pipe dream.
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Originally Posted by WorshipJesus Telling someone that you love them is saying that no matter what happens you will always love them. because what is love? love never fails. i think couples should wait before saying ILU to each other until they are ready to get married. Love never fails, yes. But I'm not sure that applies here. For instance: I dated my girlfriend for 6 months. I had told her I loved after four. And I meant it. But we broke up. Yes, I still love her. Does that mean that love failed, because our relationship failed? I don't think so. Someone else might. But I did love her. And I still do. I agree with Art: it is possible to romantically love more than one person. I believe that there are several girls out there in the world that I could marry and have a great life with. But I believe that God has chosen only one of those for me to marry.
I think sometimes there's a misunderstanding with romantic love, or so it seems to me. I think a lot of people think that when you tell a person that you love them, that it's only really true if you marry them. If you broke up and ended up not getting married, then it wasn't true. I don't believe that.