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Ok, i got this problem. My best friend, who my life used to be centered around, and who i loved more than anyone, is now slowly turning into my worst nightmare. Shes slowly grown apart from me, and now it seems she despises me. Well, i wont go into our problems and our past, cuz i could talk about that forever...... but my problem is.... no matter how much she makes me mad, or does bad things to me, there is still that part in my that just wants to take the beating, and still love her like the sister she used to be to me. But, obviously the feeling isnt mutual.... but it used to be. I foolishly got way to close with this girl, and now im stuck in a hole, and i cant get out. She pretty much intoxicates me...... i constantly find myself thinking about how great things used to be when we were close, i was invincible then..... now it seems everything in my life sucks.....just because of her.
Sorry for babbling, but i need to find a way to get rid of this desire to cling on to her and our past. No matter how hard i try, it always comes back. I seriously pray about this everyday. Granted, sometimes i dont stress it like i should do.....but i when i do, it seems like instead of me getting over her, she starts acting like the old her..... then she changes, and the cycle starts again.
Ive tried finding new friends, and im still in the process, but i just cant find anyone to take her place....
Whew, i hope this makes sense...... any advice??
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Hey Matt...
I recently realized that I am still not over my feelings for someone that I haven't seen in almost 2 years... The only things that can really heal this are time and prayer. I'll be praying for you, but unfortunately, this won't likely go away overnight.
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Matt I know exactly what you're going thru right now because its same thing I've been battling for about 7 weeks now. So you're not alone in this.
The thing to remember is, someone will take her place eventually. It may not be tomorrow, it may not be next month, but it could be - we don't know. But you're concerned with someone not being able to take her place, but someone will. And that person will be 100 times more incredible of a person than she was.
Thats how I view my last breakup. I loved this girl more than anything, and I was really upset when we broke up. I was afraid that I would never find anyone like her again. But the thing is that God fulfills all of our desires and needs and always exceeds them because he does what is best for us. So while the girl i thought was so amazing broke up with me, the girl that is 100 times more amazing than her is still waiting out there for me and God will bring her into my life when we are both ready.
I hope that makes sense.
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Originally posted by SnapCase
The thing to remember is, someone will take her place eventually. It may not be tomorrow, it may not be next month, but it could be - we don't know. But you're concerned with someone not being able to take her place, but someone will. And that person will be 100 times more incredible of a person than she was.
I just want to echo that, no matter how hard it is now you have to rest in the fact that as life goes on God will put someone else 10 times as awesome in your path when it is His timing. While that is true I would say it most likely won't be in the near future because it seems you need a time to get over all this. So be careful not to get to close to soon with another girl, allow God to be front and center in your life and in His time someone else will come along. Guy/girl best friendships are very touhg because the tendacy to get to close is usually an issue at sometime or another. Whether it causes problems for feelings of more than friendship or one person in the friendship just suddenly decides they don't want to be so close anymore and things fall apart.
I know this from experiance. However I was the girl who pulled away a little because I felt being just friends we were to close and when it came time that Go would bring someone for us to be with in a romantic way our bestfriendship would get in the way and not be fair to either his future g/f or my future b/f. I tried my best to keep our friendship but it turned out he had feelings for me he could not overcome so being not as close friends for him was tough. I know it's tough and you want that friendship the way it was so bad I've totally been there and its hard when things change and you know will probably never be the same. Don't allow her to play mind games with you and act like your same old best friend one minute then be weird the next. The best thing to dois do what you're doing keep praying about it and seeking God. Also try to keep put some distance between the two of you for a bit because I promise that will help a lot. God will work it out it just takes a little time .
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Originally posted by SenorPapaCabasa
Ok, i got this problem. My best friend, who my life used to be centered around Centering your life around someone other than Christ will always be a problem no matter who it is.
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Originally posted by Singin4Him82
I know this from experiance. However I was the girl who pulled away a little because I felt being just friends we were to close and when it came time that Go would bring someone for us to be with in a romantic way our bestfriendship would get in the way and not be fair to either his future g/f or my future b/f. I tried my best to keep our friendship but it turned out he had feelings for me he could not overcome so being not as close friends for him was tough.
Deleina I have been there too.
SenorPapaCabasa- I'll just briely cover my story. For me, I felt like I had been wasting my time on a "relationship" that wasn't ever going to happen. I liked him, only i didn't know at the time he liked me. I think perhaps she may be pulling away because she knows (1) that you probably aren't the one she's going to marry (2) perhaps she liked you at one point and her feelings changed or (3) she always thought of you as a friend.
Anyways, he also thought that I hated him or something, but in actuality, I was just trying to be seperate from him (and he was also really annoying me..)
Hope this helps. PM me if you need anything..
Psalm 19:14
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Matt, that is just too bad. i can't think of anything to say to you.... just pray about it, it will fade over time....
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Originally posted by SenorPapaCabasa
Ok, i got this problem. My best friend, who my life used to be centered around, and who i loved more than anyone, is now slowly turning into my worst nightmare. Shes slowly grown apart from me, and now it seems she despises me. Well, i wont go into our problems and our past, cuz i could talk about that forever...... but my problem is.... no matter how much she makes me mad, or does bad things to me, there is still that part in my that just wants to take the beating, and still love her like the sister she used to be to me. But, obviously the feeling isnt mutual.... but it used to be. I foolishly got way to close with this girl, and now im stuck in a hole, and i cant get out. She pretty much intoxicates me...... i constantly find myself thinking about how great things used to be when we were close, i was invincible then..... now it seems everything in my life sucks.....just because of her.
Sorry for babbling, but i need to find a way to get rid of this desire to cling on to her and our past. No matter how hard i try, it always comes back. I seriously pray about this everyday. Granted, sometimes i dont stress it like i should do.....but i when i do, it seems like instead of me getting over her, she starts acting like the old her..... then she changes, and the cycle starts again.
Ive tried finding new friends, and im still in the process, but i just cant find anyone to take her place....
Whew, i hope this makes sense...... any advice??
Ok dude, I've been battling this same thing for over a year myself. My ex-fiancee is still very close to my heart, and I can't let her go. She cheated on me, completely cut off contact with me for over a year, and pretty much hated me for that year. I still loved her. To a degree I still wish that I was with her. The day her and I broke up and I found out that she had ben cheating on, I still wanted to stay with her, and try to work things out. It does suck, but that's life. All we can do is pray about it and let God work in his time....also something I am learning.
But to tell the truth, you may never get completely over her. She was part of your life, and she is still in your heart. The pain will lessen as time passes, and you will find someone that will take her place eventually. But I say to you, let God take her place. You said that she was the center of your life, well put God back in the center man. Get completely focused on Him, and let Him guide you through this time and trouble, and know that He has His hand on you. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not to your own understanding and in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct you path.
God Bless
Jthreesixteen
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i've been there, and i know its hard, and i know how much it hurts. you need to let go, but you want to hold on.... if you believe that you two are supposed to go your seperate ways, you need to stay away from her for awhile. It sounds like you love with the person she used to be, not the person she is not. Let yourself think this through while you aren't 'intoxicated' by her. it probably hurts you to think that you can't see her for awhile, but its the only way for you to begin to build yourself back into your own person, without someone to hold you up other that God. realize that she might not be able to be there for you when you need her most, she might not want to be there for you--but God will. it sounds like you love with the person she used to be, not the person she is now. I'm not saying you should hate her at all, but you need realize (maybe not you, but your heart) all this stuff before you begin to try rebuilding the friendship.
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Hey Matt, I have a few things to say. Maybe it's for more of a reason then you could see, maybe se took up to much time and thought that should have been given to your Father in Heaven.
Know that she's human and human's will fail us. Just pray, and if she doesn't want anything to do with you anymore then you need to get on and not let this slow you down....Time will heal the wounds, but you can't walk around like you've been mortally wounded. God will heal those if you ask Him...It will be hard, but it may be for the best. So have some faith
You Bro,
Lyle
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hey, im kind of in the same position. ive been going out with this guy for 2 years and i just can't seem to get over him. but i know its time to move on, hes just not good for me. i take it one day at a time. and i know i'll meet someone new it will just take time. keep your head up and stay positive, and smile
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Someone brought this back from the dead