Question:
Hello there..
I want to ask advice about something that's disturbing me for a while.
I'm 16, and I grew in a christian family.. Well kind of..
The thing is that since I was little, my father and I had a really bad relationship.
He was extremely violent towards me at times.. And many times he had arguments and things like that..
Anyways, the thing is, that I'm planning to get baptised finally at our church next saturday.. And he's against it..
He says that I don't love the family, and that's why I shouldn't get baptised before I start loving my family... :\
The problem is, that they try in every possible way to alienate me.. I mean, I have school 'til late times, and lots of things that keep me out of home, or just too tired or frustrated to interact with someone.. Not to tell that my family is having a weird time for things anyway... My dad sleeps 'til late evening and basically all the house is trying to keep quiet and do nothing 'til he wakes up (and only then life starts at our place).
Now, every time I come from school, youth meeting, sleepover at friend's place, youth camp, conference.. ANYTHING! I'm welcomed at home in a way like "Oh, he again.." and I get comments like "You're not a part of the family anyway.. You never spend time with us".. And stuff like that..
And I just can't stand it.. It seems that they try hard to alienate me from the family, no matter what I do.
I tried to talk to my dad, but he won't listen.. And my mom wants me to get baptised, but she's generally won't ever speak openly against dad.
So my dad started reading me lectures of how I'll have problems with God after getting baptised while "not loving my own family".. And I just don't know.. I really want to get baptised, and really proceed my walk with Jesus, but ... It all makes everything so much harder..!!
And I don't know if I should get baptised, or listen to my dad and do nothing.. (But then again, I don't know when he WILL want me to get baptised)
That's all for now.. Any advice/verses/proving me wrong will be very helpful!!
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Is your dad a believer and a part of a church?
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Originally Posted by ChrisHarbison Is your dad a believer and a part of a church? Umm.. A believer, but not part of a church.. (From my whole fam, only me and my sis attend a church)
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I don't mean to come off as cold, but your relationship with God should come first. Get baptized for your sake and then do your best to positivly impact your family and your dad.
I understand how hard it can be dealing with a beligerant father. I'm 20 and I've gone through the same kind of thing. Keep the future in sight, plan for yourself, and understand that God is not Dad and vice versa. I have/have had a very hard time with this.
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Originally Posted by Dudewithprobs Umm.. A believer, but not part of a church.. (From my whole fam, only me and my sis attend a church) If he's not a part of any church, then I'd say get baptised. You have an obligation to obey God's word and be baptised. Your father has no right to manipulate you so as to disobey God.
I was thinking that maybe he was a member of a different denomination and had some other objections to your getting baptised, but that's apparently not the case.
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Yeah, i'm agree with everyone here. As your father, you are supposed to honor him and what he wants, but when it comes to his orders being other than God's will, you are commanded to follow God's will.
Ephesians 6:1-4 "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother-which is the first commandment with a mromise-that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."
So, as much as you are supposed to be honoring your parents, if they are against God's word, you are obligated to do what God is asking of you. However, i'm not saying you have to get baptized right now, that comes when you are ready. You should get baptized though, i'm sure you know that, but i can find you some scripture on that too if you'd like it.
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The relevant question being asked is whether you need to be in an "up and up" state with your family (or, really, everyone) before getting baptized. The answer to that question is no, there is no such concept written on the pages of the Scriptures.
Be baptized, and undergo the rite with a joyful heart, for the Lord God has redeemed you from your sins and is making all things new, including your own heart and, over time, even your relationship with your family. Praise be to Him!
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Hey man... that sucks that your father alienates you, but i feel the Lord is telling me that it's a tactic satan has used against you to keep u from fullfilling God's Will in your life! remember that "we war not against flesh and blood BUT against evil spirits and principalities", so do not be angry with your father(because it's just the devil tryin to throw you off), rather pray that God will open the eyes of his understanding and pray that God's will be done in your dad.

Totally get baptized and confess to the world who you serve! and about ur family's accusations saying your never spending time w/ them: set aside at least one evening throughout each week to be home and be apart of the families activities...I'll be prayin for u... and u can alwayz talk to me at drivenbytruth@yahoo.com Peace!