Question:
Well, I'm just struggling with women basically. One in particular actually. I met her last year at a youth rally. We have talked a lot over this last year, and I feel like I know her better than friends I have known for years. We have a trust level that I basically only have with my lifelong friends. She is the coolest! She is funny, smart, God loving, and not to mention pretty. It seems like we are on the same page on most things...a few we're not... but we just seem to have a connection...it's something that I've never had with a woman before. And I am thankfull that God has put her into my life. But I feel like I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. Because I really, really like her. To the extent of that everyday, I think to myself, "I wonder how Christi is doing". Without even thinking about it, she just pops into my head throughout the day. I know that isn't a bad thing, as we are close friends. But I would like to eventually be more than just friends. But, I know that #1. She is older than I am. #2. She is already 2 hours away from me. #3. She will be leaving for school in August, and then she'll be 6 and a half hours away! She is just so incredible. I have mentioned to her that I do have feelings for her, and she didn't freak out or anything, so plus! And me being at age 17, just me eveing thinking about "the one for me" is probably pretty futile. I'm not going to rule anything out, but I (God willing) have a long life ahead of me, and thinking about the woman for me at age 17 doesn't make much sense. I know it probably doesn't hurt thinking about what I'd want in the woman I'll marry. But I've met someone that I think fits... and it's driving me up the wall!!! I have been praying for a direction, and I haven't really recieved an answer. I know that God has placed her in my life for a reason...but I don't know what reason that is. I don't know if God is teaching me patience, or just giving me a friend to confide in, or you never know, maybe she is "the one"... All I know is I feel like, is here is this incredibly awesome person, and I can see her, talk to her, but she is out of my reach. I don't know what to do. I just don't know... I am just wondering if you have any advice on how to deal with this. I need help. And when I'm not around her, I miss her so much. I'm trying to use the head as much as I can, instead of letting hormones run my mind. I also realize that there may not be a solution to make this easy...or really a definate solution at all. If I just have to ride this out, I'm ready for it. I figured that just about every man in the history of the world has dealt with this, so maybe I could get some help. Thanks a million! God Bless!!
Adam
p.s.....sorry that's so long...i had a lot on my chest appearantly!!!
p.s.s....i'm 17 as stated...she's is 18...
Answer:
Well, it sounds like you already know what you should do. That being "wait it out." My thoughts are this: 1) It's good that you've already told her that you have feelings for her*; 2) The age difference does not have to be a problem, although it may simply because you two appear to be at different stages of life; 3) Your best bet would be to stay as close to her as possible through various forms of long-distance communication. You know, keep the friendship alive (perhaps even growing) as best as possible.
*btw, is this the same girl as this?
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Originally Posted by Emo_Rachael *btw, is this the same girl as this?
hehe...yuppers...you're good
Adam
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Two things:
1) The age gap is nothing. It appears it is one year, if that. There really isin't much difference between 17 and 18. There is nothing wrong with dating a female who is older than yourself.
2) While you are 17, i for one will tell you that you are not too young. I starting dating my fiancee when i was 18, and i said it already, no matter how much people try to tell you there is, there is very little difference between being 17 and being 18. When exactly do you feel you would be ready to start dating?
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Originally Posted by adamkaboom I also realize that there may not be a solution to make this easy...or really a definate solution at all. If I just have to ride this out, I'm ready for it. Basically, yeah.
One year is not a big age difference.
Six hours is not that far away.
There is a concern to keep in mind, though: you're both going to be doing a lot of maturing in the next few years, and you may mature in different directions.
There is also, of course, a solution. Commitment. Of course, then you're putting yourself in a long-distance relationship, which is just not fun (ask Bill; he knows).
So, you have a decision to make. Talk it out with her. See if she wants to take the plunge into a long-distance relationship. See if you want to. If you do, God bless and good luck. If not, riding it out and seeing if anything develops in the future is pretty much your only option.
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Thanks for the replies. I realize that six hours puts us within the same state...and committment is something that I think I'm ready for. I know that I need to talk to her about it....i have some things to think about...thanks!!!
Adam