Question:
k..i dn't kno if this hs been discussed b4..but here's my problem:
i'm interested in this guy..he's interested in me...been out a few times and we want to get to kno each other better. Problem is..he hs this bestfriend whose a girl who keeps getting in the way. she wnts to bump their relationship up 2 the nex level...but he dsn't.he also dsn't want to tell her that he wants 2 get 2 kno me betr b/c he's afraid of hurting her feelings.i realise since she's been around way longer than i hv i cn't demand that he tel her 2 take a hike...i dn't want him 2...but am i wasting my time?how 2i broach this without coming across like a jealous psycho-freak?
Answer:
First, in the advice forums, spelling is essential so everyone can understand what you're saying. (^_^)
Second, I take it from your post that you are not dating this guy as of yet. I don't think there is anything you can really do. If you two end up going out, he's the one who is going to have to confront his best friend. If you do it, it'll only look like you're trying to come between them. Again, if you two end up dating and her behaviour persists, you need to talk to the guy who in turn can talk to her. But this is all of course, if you end up dating.
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It comes down to what he feels is more important in his life, dating you or having his best friend remain close to him. If he truly likes you he will find a way and the right time to talk to his best friend, but if he values his friendship more than a dating relationship with you right now he will choose to remain friends. If he chooses his friendship over dating you, this is something you will need to respect, don't give him grief for it or distance yourself because of it. This is a decision he needs to make on his own so don't try to talk him into the decision you think he should make.

On the other hand if he drags you along and won't date you until he "talks to his friend" but this never seems to happen then move on because he's not worth it. Don't let a guy play with your emotions.
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he's been promising to talk to his friend for about 4 months now and we've been seeing each other for about six...isn't it understandable that i'm gettin weary of waiting? i seriously don't wana get hurt.
Answer:
Originally Posted by Krysty he's been promising to talk to his friend for about 4 months now and we've been seeing each other for about six...isn't it understandable that i'm gettin weary of waiting? i seriously don't wana get hurt. nobody really wants to get hurt but when relationships are concerned that's a risk you take. (It's either that or lock yourself in a closet for the rest of your life)
if he hasn't done something after saying he's going to talk to her for 4 months, maybe it's time to talk about why he hasn't talked to her.