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how can a girl act arould a guy when he know that she has cares for him and that he's not attracted to her???????? but he just wants to be budies. He has no time to hang out w/ her, hes always busy. Even throw they both like the same things.
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What are your "cares"? Do you have feelings for him?

Whether you do or not, I think you should just treat him like any other of your friends. Be there for him if he ever needs you, but make sure you're not being selfish about it.

PM me if you want to talk more in-depth about it
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Originally Posted by eagles04 how can a girl act arould a guy when he know that she has cares for him and that he's not attracted to her???????? but he just wants to be budies. He has no time to hang out w/ her, hes always busy. Even throw they both like the same things. oh, I have been there! ummm... what I did was... although it was awkward at first, just be friends. be casual. he's always busy, yes, he's prob'ly also a little frieked out 'cause he knows you like him and he doesn't feel the same way...
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Um, normally? Just be a friend. Let go of any feelings of disappointment or jealousy, they'll just get in the way.
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i've been asking him if we could hang out and play some v- games but he dont want to. i told him if he needs to talk about anything to let me know , but so far he has not done so. he has a lot on his mind he tells me. but i know he wants to talk but hes shy and very quite. i always go to him.
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Ohh man I know exactly what you're talking about. Happened to me when I said I liked a guy before I found out he had a girlfriend, a bit embarrassing. But I think that if they want to be friends that great maybe spend sometime with him but dont push it. Probably just being around him will make him open up more to you. Maybe offer to do something else, something he wants to do and if he doesn't want to them consider stepping back abit.
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Originally Posted by eagles04 He has no time to hang out w/ her, hes always busy. Even throw they both like the same things.
I think if he has "no time" to hang out with you, maybe that's his way of saying he's uncomfortable spending time with you because you have feelings for him that he doesn't have for you.
sometimes you just have to back away from people when they have "no time" for you and you're the one making all the effort to keep up a friendship. it's going to seem painful at first, especially since you like him, but in the long run it's much better for you.
I wrote out a personal example of this but then it ended up being really long so I cut it out. feel free to pm me though, and I'll pm you what I wrote and how I dealt with it. also, pm me if you have any questions or just need to talk.
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i know but , i want to speed some time w/ him but he says that he busy which he is. he works 24/7 as a postoffice delv. man he goes to ymca, and sometimes he goes to his dads which is once a week. some times he skips the ymca to go to play some v-games at the mall in latham. i had askem if i can go w/ him to the mall he says that the car is so packed. he does have some v-games systems but he also told me that he let his budies uese it cause hes busy alot. he comes home at night time between 11 - 2 and he has to go to work at 9. so he only gets a little of sleep. i just dont know what else to do. his name is chris and his grandma and every one else calls me chris , my real name is kristy. i dont mind them calling me chris is cause he dont want them calling me that . some times when iam there i look at him and sometimes our eyes meet , we would like at each other for 5 min. then he turns his head. he says that he dont want to date cuase hes scared of getting hurt. he told me that if he was going to date that he would like us know but i know that he would not go out w/ me if i ask him. he told me so. we both like the same things. when he is play games on his labtop and his xbox i talk to him about them. sometimes when i do talk to him he looks at me he like the same chinesse food. the other night i was their and i bought some and i told him that if he wants he can have the rest which he did a little bit after i went to sleep. his bud is coming home soon from the army , he wants to get out of it but they dont want to letem go. between me and mark , he knows that i have feels for chris. mark and i do talk but its about any thing. he does come to me and ask me things but chris dont, hes shy and quite. i just dont know if chris is holding some thing back. he says that he likes being single. he says that theres no point in liking someone when their are others out there and that if i did like someone else he says to go for it. i told em that i would still care for him even throw he dont feel the same way about me and that i can wait for him if he does change is mind. he dont mind answering my questions. a bud of his liked him and he told her the same thing that he told me which is that he dont have the time to date. he says having a gf is another time consumer and $$ and a chore that he dont want. he dont want my time spent on him. i take some quizzes out of the books from cosmo and others and says that their cute. he should know his needs and wants. i dont think that he gets em that often. he may not want me as an sex buddy. if he does i dont mind it. iam just going to wait tell mark comes home for good so that i cant talk to him about chris.
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It seems that you should lay off. If you have tried talking to him so many times, and still can't get much of a response, nothing will change. As for him always being busy, even if he wasn't, you shouldn't be so insistent on 'hanging out'. That scares people away. I had an old friend who was interested in me for quite some time. He's not a Christian. He would always invite me to the movies and such. BUT, what fellowship does light have with darkness? So, I turned him down. However, I shared the Gospel with him over the phone. There was a time when I was too busy to even think of going to the movies with him. He got very upset and said some unpleasant things. He scared me away. For good. So, just try to ease up on the invitations. And about you being his 'sex buddy', I really encourage you to RECONSIDER. Think about what pleases God, and do His will. God bless you!
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Ok, so what do we know? We know that he's a very busy person and we know that he's not interested in dating right now. And what are you doing? You're pressuring him to spend time hanging out with you and trying to get together with him. So basically you're doing the opposite of what's best for him. Now, I assume that you see each other from time to time aside from your specific attempts to hang out. So, when you happen to see him, hang out, have fun, and talk. Don't be so concerned about your feelings for him and his feelings for you. It sounds like that topic takes up most of your conversation. People that aren't interested in dating aren't interested in talking about going out. Just chill with that aspect of the relationship and focus on being friends. Don't worry if he doesn't talk to you as much as you think he should; your posting has made it obvious that he has other friends; I'm sure he talks to them.
To sum up: Back off a little bit and just be friends.
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he does have other friends, he sees them when he goes to the mall and play video games but one of his friends (mark) which lives w/ him and his grandma which is cool but hes still trying to get out of the army. well , mark talks to me all da time about any thing.
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some people talk more than other people. maybe this mark guy is more comfortable talking to people than the other guy. honestly, the worst thing you can do if you're trying to be friends with a shy person is to pressure them to talk and hang out. some people, especially shy ones, get extremely uncomfortable and resent that kind of pressure, and you might end up making him not want to talk to you at all. you might mean well by trying to be friends, but he might freak out. personalities vary, and you may mean one thing and he may see it as something totally different.