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I want to go to a ball that my college is putting on for the end of the year. My sister has to go because she's on the student govornment next year. However, I was invited by a distant friend to a birthday party/youth service/sleepover.
I am twenty years old and this friend of mine is turning seventeen. He's homeschooled, awkward and sheltered like I was, so I emphesise with some of the quirks I pick on on when I see him. Which isn't all that often, considering we just talk at rallys and district events sometimes. So I don't know him all that well, but I'm guessing I'm one of the few people he'd invite, since he probably doesn't have a bunch of friends.
I will go for his sake, but I do not want to spend the night. I can't make it back to the ball in time, because it's literaly 100 miles away. He lives way upstate, and I'd have to drive there early to get to church at 7:30. It'd be a youth service, birthday party, then sleepover. The ball starts at 6, ends at 11. So there's no way I could do both.
I feel really awkward about staying over, so I think I'll take some clothes and scope it out, but leave depending on the situation. I'd be driving back across all of connecticut around midnight to get home. But I just don't know how strange it would be. I'm twenty years old. I don't sleep over, I crash. and I feel weird about crashing at a 17 year old's that I kinda know, but isn't a close friend or anything. On the other hand I don't know how many close friends he has.
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what advice are you looking for? I actually think you answered it yourself. Go, be prepared for the possibility of staying over but if things make you uncomfortable, then you could bail.
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im just looking for thoughts. I pretty much know what I'm going to do, but it doesn't hurt to think about it.
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yea.. it's probably a sacrifice for you to give up the ball.. I would TOTALLY understand if you chose not to go, but then, I think you are doing an awesome thing by going.

you live near conneticut??
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I live in Connecticut... if you know the geography, then I have to drive from Milford (Near New Haven) to Danielson (near Putnam), and the ball is in Wallingford. That's why I can't really hit both.
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Originally Posted by Nathanael I want to go to a ball that my college is putting on for the end of the year. My sister has to go because she's on the student govornment next year. However, I was invited by a distant friend to a birthday party/youth service/sleepover.
I am twenty years old and this friend of mine is turning seventeen. He's homeschooled, awkward and sheltered like I was, so I emphesise with some of the quirks I pick on on when I see him. Which isn't all that often, considering we just talk at rallys and district events sometimes. So I don't know him all that well, but I'm guessing I'm one of the few people he'd invite, since he probably doesn't have a bunch of friends.
I will go for his sake, but I do not want to spend the night. I can't make it back to the ball in time, because it's literaly 100 miles away. He lives way upstate, and I'd have to drive there early to get to church at 7:30. It'd be a youth service, birthday party, then sleepover. The ball starts at 6, ends at 11. So there's no way I could do both.
I feel really awkward about staying over, so I think I'll take some clothes and scope it out, but leave depending on the situation. I'd be driving back across all of connecticut around midnight to get home. But I just don't know how strange it would be. I'm twenty years old. I don't sleep over, I crash. and I feel weird about crashing at a 17 year old's that I kinda know, but isn't a close friend or anything. On the other hand I don't know how many close friends he has.
Just think wat would Jesus Do? then if Jesus was with u wat would u do?
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Originally Posted by FoLoGOD Just think wat would Jesus Do? then if Jesus was with u wat would u do? This is why I dislike the WWJD buzz line. It takes all the burden of advice off of the advisor and places it squarely onto the one asking help.
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sorry chris!
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Doesn't WWJD stand for "What Would Jimmy Buffet Do?" And I do believe that Jimmy Buffet would say, "Pour me somethin' tall and strong. Make it a hurricane before I go insane. It's only half past twelve but I don't care, it's 5 o'clock somewhere."
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Originally Posted by ChrisHarbison Doesn't WWJD stand for "What Would Jimmy Buffet Do?" And I do believe that Jimmy Buffet would say, "Pour me somethin' tall and strong. Make it a hurricane before I go insane. It's only half past twelve but I don't care, it's 5 o'clock somewhere."
o k
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I know plenty of 17-year old guys who stay at each other's houses after playing Halo and stuff, and guys that barely know each other crash on the couch too. I guess I fail to see why you would be uncomfortable with it. Since you ARE (I'm not gonna argue about whether or not you should be) I think you've answered your own question. Just be prepared to skip if you don't wanna stay. Just make sure you wanna drive that far in one night when you might be tired.
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actualy i wound up not going and i went to this ball thing instead where there was dacing and singing and moving to the groovin and drinking and goofy people and it was lots more fun anyway
i didn't go upstate because they cancelled church and all they were gonna do was play games all night, and the only reason it would have been awkward at my friends house is because he's such a stoonad. he had to think for a good ten seconds before he remembered his street adress and the color of his house.
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Originally Posted by Chris This is why I dislike the WWJD buzz line. It takes all the burden of advice off of the advisor and places it squarely onto the one asking help.
My main trouble with it applied literally all the time is that I think that in this situation Jesus would say the perfect things, and have the neighborhood healed of sickness and that sort of stuff and really Im not there yet.
Though the underlying principle of doing the Godly thing is ok. And it is not always bad to have the person asking for help to think about solutions themselves, but I agree that you dont want to dump it on them and leave them alone.
On the original advice, I thnk that it is really good that you care enough about this guy to go, and I agree with the deciding whether or not you should stay over or not. The only thing is that you may need a ready made reason (not a lie though) as to why you cant stay over or you need to leave so that the guy isnt crushed (i dont know if he would be) if it looks like you are leaving early.