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When you first decided to have a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship, I assume that you must have prayed about it. Question is... which one of these two you choose?
1) you wait for somekind of revelation from God (whether someone is the one for you) then start the relationship after that OR
2) you pray (but didn't get any answer) and decided to start the relationship anyway and then wait and see if he/she's the one
Assumption for both cases: both of you are christian
I might not be very good at putting my mind into words, but I hope you get what I mean
PS. Mod please move if it's in the wrong section
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When my husband and I prayed about dating one another I wouldn't say we recieved a "revelation" however, we did have a strong peace from God after praying and reading the Word a great deal. The Lord spoke to us in various ways through His Word and the counsel in our lives as well. It wasn't one "revelation" it was more like a many things lined up which the Lord used to speak to us and give us a peace about the direction we took our relationship.
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Things made sense and added up and fitted well for us to be together. We went on "can I see myself married to this person" if that doesn't work then stay friends.

7 months of friendship and 2 years of dating.
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We prayed but didn't really feel any direction one way or the other. So we just decided to try it out and see what happened, keeping our hearts very open to the possibility of it not working out. Throughout that time God started showing us circumstantially that we were a good match together and should be together and as we continued to pray through the relationship, we felt an incredible peace in our being together. One night, after getting engaged, I got worried that we were making a mistake and started praying big time. God brought 3 verses to mind simultaneously-- all affirming our relationship.
We got married knowing that we were committed to God and each other, number one, and knowing, number two, that we deeply loved each other. So we got married. No lightening from heaven or audible words of God, but we got married in the presence of the Lord and within Biblical grounds (we are "equally yoked") and I think that's the most important thing. God's blessing was on us, even though he never spoke to us in a vision or anything supernatural like that.
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I see, so far it is more option number 2 than 1. I guess God reveal it in audible words to some people and to some people ... He doesn't. When our pastor started the bf/gf relationship, BOTH of them kinda get that "revelation", although when they got that, they never talked to each other yet . "God are you kidding?", that was the question that popped out of their mind (of course they didn't tell each other that they got that revelation before they're enggaged). Then they became friends, developed a special feeling and eventually got married.
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that's sort of what happened to my husband and myself... we were just friends, and regularly praying for each other (but nothing romantic)... he was interested in another girl, and i was too... but everytime we prayed for one another, we would hear God saying to us that "he/she's the one you're going to marry" kind of thing.. although we didn't know that the Lord has been talking to both of us about each other until we dated.
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Originally Posted by Praisey he was interested in another girl, and i was too...

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Anyway, we got your point Praisey
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whoops hehe
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we both prayed about it... and there was no audible "yes" or revelation... but it was right. (speaking for Chris) we both felt the yes--if that makes any sense.
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Originally Posted by loriborealis We got married knowing that we were committed to God and each other, number one, and knowing, number two, that we deeply loved each other. So we got married. No lightening from heaven or audible words of God, but we got married in the presence of the Lord and within Biblical grounds (we are "equally yoked") and I think that's the most important thing. God's blessing was on us, even though he never spoke to us in a vision or anything supernatural like that.
Exactly! God may not send you a personal e-mail detailing what you should do in your relationship, but he will send a spirit of peace when something is right. Beautifully said Lori