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how come right away parents think that when theres no supervision and a girl is with a guy something sexual is going to happen? recently that has happened to me. i was asked to join a band that consists of two guys and we will be in a garage playing. my parents werent too sure if they would let me cause their first excuse was we dont know them.. so i told my friend and he came over to meet my parents.. then their second excuse since they couldnt use that one was we dont know if something sexual is going to happen or not, we want to trust you but its hard... but lucky they trust me enough to let me join the band. can someone tell me why all parents think like that i mean i understand where they are coming from but its a bother to us...
xsecretsbassx
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One word: Experience. And worry. I don't blame them really, but it never hurts to listen to them with an open mind. They were kids once too, you know!
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Originally Posted by xsecretsbassx how come right away parents think that when theres no supervision and a girl is with a guy something sexual is going to happen? Because, believe it or not, your parents were young once. They remember the sexual temptation they faced growing up, and are trying to protect you from falling into the same temptation. I don't think it's that they think something sexual is going to happen, but they know that the possiblity is a good one.
Originally Posted by xsecretsbassx recently that has happened to me. i was asked to join a band that consists of two guys and we will be in a garage playing. my parents werent too sure if they would let me cause their first excuse was we dont know them.. so i told my friend and he came over to meet my parents.. then their second excuse since they couldnt use that one was we dont know if something sexual is going to happen or not, we want to trust you but its hard... but lucky they trust me enough to let me join the band. I'm assuming you're the girl, since the other members of the band are male? You said they met one of the guys... but what about the other? Did they meet him as well? Also, just because you don't agree/understand/etc... your parents' reasoning doesn't mean that they're not looking out for your best interests. I wasn't allowed to do many things growing up... and I wasn't allowed to go places with certain people. At the time it was a big deal to me... now, I realize it was because my parents actually did know more than me, and it was a good thing I didn't hang out with these people outside of school.
Originally Posted by xsecretsbassx can someone tell me why all parents think like that i mean i understand where they are coming from but its a bother to us... Do you really understand where they're coming from?
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Originally Posted by xsecretsbassx how come right away parents think that when theres no supervision and a girl is with a guy something sexual is going to happen? recently that has happened to me. i was asked to join a band that consists of two guys and we will be in a garage playing. my parents werent too sure if they would let me cause their first excuse was we dont know them.. so i told my friend and he came over to meet my parents.. then their second excuse since they couldnt use that one was we dont know if something sexual is going to happen or not, we want to trust you but its hard... but lucky they trust me enough to let me join the band. can someone tell me why all parents think like that i mean i understand where they are coming from but its a bother to us...
xsecretsbassx
because all too often they are right about such things. i was the guy who had half a dozen close female friends in High School who was the bad guy all the girls thought was cute. I never even kissed a girl and my parents continually barraged me with sexual accusations. It was hard, but frankly, its part of life.
The Proverbs state that a curse causeless will not rest anymore than a darting swallow. Just keep your relationships perfectly pure and time will reveal truth. But be honest and open, and practice in a garage with an open door. Its hard to accuse anybody of anything and its a blast to have 30+ neighborhood tots listening.
me and my brother used to play and all the neighbor hood little kids would dance and mosh in the driveway. It was quite a hoot and one of my fondest memories.
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Originally Posted by swtMaebird One word: Experience. And worry. I don't blame them really, but it never hurts to listen to them with an open mind. They were kids once too, you know! Bingo!
And I'm a guy, I know what young teenage boys think about. Parents aren't as dumb as they may seem sometimes.
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im the girl. the other guy is our drummer and he came to my house too. but he left before he met my parents cause he was too nervous. yes i do understand where they are coming from but there will always be a possibility of something happened no matter what the circumstances are. i just wanted to hear a few of the others view points on this. thanks guys. got to go im at school and if i get caught typing here im dead meat. gotta bounce out.. peace.
xsecretsbassx
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Also it is good because it gives you the appearance of possibly being up to something. Not everyone thinks platonic relationships are possible...
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yeah, well we (me and him) already talked about it and im just wanted in the band because of my friendship and because i can help out as a musician. im out of here cause im in computer class and if i get caught, well you know the punishment.. peace.
xblaqkaudiox
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Originally Posted by xsecretsbassx yeah, well we (me and him) already talked about it and im just wanted in the band because of my friendship and because i can help out as a musician. Yes, you and he talked about this... but your parents may not trust him just yet. The more your parents get to know him the more they may respect him (if he's respectable)... and the more respect they have for him, the more likely they will be to let you spend one-on-one time with him. You can't just expect your parents to say "Do what you think is best"... that's just not how parents work. (nor should they work that way)
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you must not understand what i am saying... my parents already said yes that i can do whatever i want as long as it doesnt effect my grades. being in the band helps me with my grades cause i have to have something to work for or else its like whatever. last semester i was in cross country and i have to have 12 points to be on the team. i had 20. so that helped me out alot, i also passed math class..and before i joined the band this semester i had a fail. i still have it cause i just joined but in time ill have a passing grade.