Question:
Is it weird to have two minds about the same person?
I like my ex-gf and I know her heaps well and I get along with her when we hang out. She said she likes me too. Is it wierd then, that we also have these feelings of it not being right for us to go back out? I got hurt pretty bad through the last half-year from the breakup and she was busy with other guys in that time. Its been three weeks since her last bf of a month broke up with her and now she is friendly to me again. She apologised for alot of things that she did too.
However, I really dont feel at peace at being more than friends with her, even though I have feelings like I want to hug her or put my arm around her because I care for her.
I dont know what it is and I cant explain it anymore than that. I just feel it wouldnt be right for me to go there.
Answer:
i would be so so careful.
It sounds like this girl can't make up her mind about who she wants to be with.
Be friends with her, but just be careful you dont find yourself and her alone, very often. Try to keep it simply as a friendship you would have with any other of your female friends....
perhaps with time will come certainty for you both!
Answer:
I think it's perfectly normal to have feelings like that. You some had good times with her and you have a slight yearning to get those feelings back. But have you ever heard of the phrase "once bitten, twice shy"? You got hurt pretty badly and you're worried about it happening again.
Given the fact that she got out of a relationship three weeks ago. She's still ripe in the time of a rebound. It would only be foolish to go for a relationship with her at this time.
My personal thoughts are to not even pursue a relationship. But then I try to live by the phrase, "Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me." I don't mean to suggest you never forgive her. But don't let her into a place where she can hurt you so badly again. But hey, that's me.