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My mother has a terminal pancreatic cancer. Whenever I think about it, it brings me to tears. The questions "why" always hits me. Why my mom? Why my family? Out of everyone, it has to be my mom? It's hard to believe that my mother has such a fatal disease and it brings me to much tears. What can I do to stop this feeling of hate and anger towards the words of God? It's hard to believe that everything happens for a reason.
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I understand what you're thinking. Very much so. My mother died when I was 13 and my grandfather who raised me died just a couple weeks ago. There's nothing wrong with wondering why God is doing what He's doing... or allowing what's happening to your family.
do you go to church? is your mom a Christian? can you talk with her about what you're thinking and feeling?
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I've been thru the same thing too. My dad died of lung cancer when i was 10 and my mom died of colorectal cancer a couple of years ago. I've struggled doubt myself too... often times asking stuff like "why??", "why is it so unfair??"... and true, it's hard to believe that things happen for a reason.
But what I've learnt to grasp:
The fact is, something really bad is happening in your life.
But the truth is, God is still faithful, and He's still in control.
Sure, we don't deny the facts that trials and tribulations are at hand, but we also do not forget that He is still there in control, and He stays true to His promise that "He will never leave us nor forsake us".
Take a look at the life of Job. He was upright, righteous, and yet God allowed such catcastrophe as the destruction of his whole family and riches overnight. Job had every reason to curse God and blame Him for what has happened. But he didn't. He remained faithful, trusting God even though he didn't know how things would turn out. And in the end God restored to him double of what he possessed before.
Just an encouragement to you that sometimes storms in life come as testing of the true measure of our faith. You'll never know how pure gold is until you run it thru the fire. And I do pray that you will stay faithful to Him, for great is the reward in heaven for those who love Him.
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Another "been there"..... when I was 13, my mom died of breast cancer three days after Christmas. I had days when I really lost it and was fortunately to have some good friends I could call on for support - that made a big difference!
Another thing that really helped - I kept a diary during that time. Years later, it's a different perspective to go back and read that diary. Yeah - it's pretty tough to have gone through it all, but reading that diary and thinking about things again helps me to see how God worked in my life to bring about things later on.
When my Dad died 10 years ago, something helped was that we were able to talk about his impending death beforehand. That's something I never did with my mom (although when my Dad had cancer I was an adult with my own family). It's tough to do, but with my Dad it helped me and him to work through things and say what we needed to say before he passed away
I'll be praying for you!
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i cant even imagine wat u must be goin through. I lost my Grama last year. I a missionary Kid in Bolivia. But i remeber when we got the call from the states. It was hard. But u know that God has a purpose for everything that he does. My Grama was like one of the closest people to God that i've ever known. But God took her home to be with him. There's nothing wrong with questioning God but try not to doubt him. I cant say i know wat i feel's like but God has a purpose for everything. Stand Strong. I'll be praying for you.
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Originally Posted by jkimm My mother has a terminal pancreatic cancer. Whenever I think about it, it brings me to tears. The questions "why" always hits me. Why my mom? Why my family? Out of everyone, it has to be my mom? It's hard to believe that my mother has such a fatal disease and it brings me to much tears. What can I do to stop this feeling of hate and anger towards the words of God? It's hard to believe that everything happens for a reason. The same thing is happening to my dad, tho he has Liver cancer...all I can say is pray. This reason is probally this: When your Mom is healed, others will hopefully be lead to christ or their faith my be impowered. I pray that God will give your family the peace that passes all understanding!
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Originally Posted by jkimm The questions "why" always hits me. Why my mom? Why my family? Out of everyone, it has to be my mom? It's hard to believe that my mother has such a disease and it brings me to much tears. What can I do to stop this feeling of and anger towards the words of God? It's hard to believe that everything happens for a reason.
As difficult as it is to accept that everything has a purpose, it is much easier to understand given the proper perspective. While you have been busy focusing on the hardship at hand, you likely have not considered the fact that this experience now puts your mom and yourself in a position to sympathyze with others.

It is in the time of despair which we most need to trust God and realize that we alone are capable of nothing, being the fallen creatures that we are. It is the time of despair when one really comes to the realization that they are fully at God's mercy. However, do not lose confidence, for there is truth in what Clive Staples Lewis said that, "For what God takes with his left hand he only gives back with his right." This dividend may manifest itself in the future as a stronger relationship with your mother, or a clearer perspective on the preciousness of life.

I have to end my post, and this is only an abridged version of what I hoped to offer. I will look for some applicable Scripture refrences.