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anyone ever had to deal with this? I am dealing with someone close to me who has it and refuses treatment. but its making his life horrible and mine too..im not sure how to help him. or when enough is enough and i just walk away..any suggestions? He puts alot of blaim on me..which I would agree im not perfect but sometimes if i even speak to this person he gets mad and says i am blowing up on him..I need help!
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i had a freind like this once. she's now taking medicine but it took a long time to get her to. first, you need to know that you can't walk out of their life. you can't even consider it. you need to pray about it. i dont mean a "dear god help _____ amen" i mean really let your heart spill and just talk untill you cna't think of anything more to say. also, try talking a to a youth leader at your church or even a pastor. they always have verses to help and advice. your freind doesn't know how much he's hurting you or even hurting himself. you need to give it time. you need to talk to him about it. if he says your yelling at him tell him that your not and simply continue on a different subject and come back to that another time. i'll be praying for you. i'm here for you. <3 in christ
bandgeek
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do some research online about the disorder. It might help to understand it a bit more easily.
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I dont know where to start. I am bi-polar 1 and medicated accordingly. I always have been, but wasnt diagnosed until the year 2000. Up until then I had been a successful store manager, a business owner and played in a relativley successful christian band called ELOI. I had been married for 6 years and had had two children. Then it crashed!
I wish i had room in this forum to discuss all symptoms that ive had and the results of the consiquences of those sysmptoms. Honestly i do not think that there is a forum big enough for that. Bi-polar is different from one person to another as most diseases are, however, there are some things that are static. As a person,/loved one dealing with a person who is bi-polar, its a tight rope to walk. People are well intentioned at times with suggestions of bible verses and prayer (not withstanding the power of either) but the best way you help a bi-polar that is a family member, spouce or child is TOUGH LOVE.
Most people who have to deal with a bi-polar person, out of good intention, unknowingly enable the bi-polar's behavior. This is a hard line to walk when you think you are doing what God wants you do to, but you have to remember that you are not God in this situation and that you are a human being with your own needs. Its hard! Very few christians understand how this works and its hard when all you here is pray or have faith. But sometimes the things that might not seem "christian" in our eyes are the very things that are in accordance with God's will.
I spent a lot of time in therapy to learn that i am in controll of my behavior even if i am not in control of my illness. It's all about choices. A bi-polar will tell you that they dont mean to be a certain way, but when the behavior is repeative, then they DO mean to be that way.
It's hard! But boundries and tough love are the answer here. I am willing to discuss any of this with anyone---email: sethiroth104@yahoo.com