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Hey everyone! It's been a VERY long time since I've posted, but I've been watching!
So can someone tell me what a girl means when she says that she likes you, but she doesn't want to go by her feelings and wants to be led by God? We are both godly people who have expressed mutual interest in each other. I just don't know where to take it from here.
If she means what it says, then does she think that dating is out of the question and God will magically bring you together?
How much are we responsible for and how much do we just leave to God?
All suggestions welcome...
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I would say it means that she's trying to be cautious.
Why not just ask her?
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Yeah, I would ask her. It's possible that she has been in a bad relationship before, and now she wants to, like cockroach said, be cautious.
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i would say that she's trying to keep herself on the right track, and let God lead her life, and if it's what God has ordained, then she would go out with you, but i would really just ask her to make sure.. i mean, sometimes things are meant a LOT differently than they are spoken...( i learned that the hard way!).. but i think that she kind of wants to go out with you, but doesn't want to take herself down the wrong path, opposite the one that God is putting her on..
Hope that helped..
~Kate
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Originally Posted by ForeverPraise i would say that she's trying to keep herself on the right track, and let God lead her life, and if it's what God has ordained, then she would go out with you, but i would really just ask her to make sure.. i mean, sometimes things are meant a LOT differently than they are spoken...( i learned that the hard way!).. but i think that she kind of wants to go out with you, but doesn't want to take herself down the wrong path, opposite the one that God is putting her on..
Hope that helped..
~Kate
Thanks for the input.
Well, she has stated plainly that she likes me, but wants to be cautious and would like us to end up in a relationship, but only if God leads us into one.
I'm cool with all that. I would just like to understand what she means by "letting the Lord lead". How do you know when the Lord is leading? If I ask her out on a date, is that me taking too much initiative and not waiting on God? If so, how would we ever spend any time together?
I guess I'm just trying to avoid being overly spiritual about this. I mean, there does come a point when I have to do something right? Is there such a thing as being too cautious?
Listening...
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More than likely, it means that she simply doesn't want to go out with you right now (if you want to know the reason, ask her). It could also be taken to mean that she doesn't believe God is truly sovereign. More than likely, she doesn't really believe that, though, and is just pulling the typical pop-Christianity trick of saying "I want to make sure ***** is God's will before I do it," when what you really mean is "I want to make sure ***** is what I really want before I do it." If she is really waiting for God to magically reveal His will by putting y'all together or something, then she's trouble. If she is simply expressing herself in Christianese, well.......
In His love,
Nate
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It means, "Hold on, I'm going to shop around some more. But don't go closing your doors just yet."
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It means she doesn't know what she's talking about. Girls do this a lot.
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Originally Posted by Nate More than likely, it means that she simply doesn't want to go out with you right now (if you want to know the reason, ask her). It could also be taken to mean that she doesn't believe God is truly sovereign. More than likely, she doesn't really believe that, though, and is just pulling the typical pop-Christianity trick of saying "I want to make sure ***** is God's will before I do it," when what you really mean is "I want to make sure ***** is what I really want before I do it." If she is really waiting for God to magically reveal His will by putting y'all together or something, then she's trouble. If she is simply expressing herself in Christianese, well.......
In His love,
Nate
This is what I was getting at... thanks Nate.
And Yojimbo... I'm pretty sure that there is no one else for her to shop around for. We're in the Bahamas and the number of godly guys to choose from is... well... small, and she doesn't know that many people yet .
Anyway, she told me today that the Lord showed her that she was holding on to some fear about the past. I asked her to explain and she said that she came across Philippians 3:14 where it talks about forgetting what is behind and stuff.
We're going to the movies tonight. Pray for us!
Thanks for all the different viewpoints guys and girls.
Peace.
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How well do you know her?
She could be trying to say she wants to get to know you better!
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speaking as a girl... I'm not sure what her underlying meaning is.
I've gotta second what Bob said "ask her!"
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It sounds to me like she is genuine, yet caught up in this Christianese jargon and doesn't actually understand. She probably means she doesn't want to just jump into something without praying about it first. I've never used God as just an excuse to say no, so hopefully she isn't either.
Good luck at the movies. And don't try to kiss her on the first date! Gosh, I hated that.....
(On your end, you could pray too about what to do. God'll give you direction, in His way. Then if you feel ok about it, give it a shot and because God is sovereign, he'll break you up if it isn't meant to be.)
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Originally Posted by danalyn speaking as a girl... I'm not sure what her underlying meaning is.
I've gotta second what Bob said "ask her!" I would totally say that I agree. You can spend a lot of wasted time wondering what this or that means, but I think that you will be less worried if you just ask her to clarify what she means .
Also, you will probably grow closer, because you will not always have to be wondering if there is a hidden meaning in what she is saying