Question:
I'm at this fork in the road. I don't know what to do, i'm not sure what my all my choices are, or which is appropriate.

Basically, in the last 6 months, my world has changed.

I've always been the same kind of guy though, a real people pleaser, you might say, I'll do whatever someone needs, or find a way to provide it, whatever it takes. Alot of my friends in the past, while they were my friends say that i'm a good friend, and have a knack for making friends.

I seem to partially base my direction on the people around myself's direction except that, I'm a real dreamer, so if people don't really want better, i tend to sorta change direction and sail past, it seems.

Okay, so its September, and I'm a little down. I had quit my job, and was looking for something else. So I see this job in the paper, and it looks like it could be pretty good. So I apply and they call me back, and after like 8 interviews, I have a Job at Verizon Wireless. During this part of my life, i have a few close friends and run sound at my church. So in October, I start work, we were still short an employee, so I was working a lot. Like 60-70hrs a week alot. So I get somewhat seperated from my friends. Its not that i've ever had a ton of friends, but here it is March, and i'm practically close to no one, I work alot less, around 40/week now, and the job has given me more money than I ever thought I would have this early in life. I moved out during this period, and i'm not real close to anyone. Also, I've slipped away from closeness with God and My church has become such a gossip house for me I'm definatley changing churches.

As far as a wife/girlfriend, I know what I value, and what I want in her, and when I find someone that seems close, I sorta choke, and definatley have problems with physical intimacy prior to a real commitment.

I graduated a year early from high school and my class is graduating in May. I am 18 years old.

I want to be a police officer, its all I've ever wanted to be, and i'm definatley going to do it.

Okay now, onto the acctual fork(s):

Things I need to pick:
Should I go to/stay at:

A.College
1. Local College - Use work tuition reimbursement program and go part time.
2. Abroad - Go full time, get where I want to Quicker.

B.Army
1. Go to the army for a few years, get away from where I am, see the world, and be ready to join the force when I discharge.

C. Verizon Wireless
1. Stay focused on a job i really don't love, and try to climb the corporate ladder.

I also need to get close to our father again.

I also want to take care of my wife and make sure that my life will meet her desires, which makes me want to delay my life while I wait on her.

I'm not close to anyone, as i've said, I would love to have your advice, and Pray your heart out for me, Please, Please.

Thanks,
Frank
Answer:
Eww...Verizon...alas I must give sound advice to the competition (I work for Cingular Wireless ).
Seriously though, do not stay at a job you don't like (be it at that V place or any other place). As a man, your job is an integral part of your life and if you hate your job you'll have a miserable life. Honestly, I think the best option of those 3 would be to work part time and go to the local community college. Here are several reasons why I think that would be a good idea:
- use money saved up from working to help with school, plus you get tuition reimbursement
- you'll be at home and could theoretically have a bit more time to possibly heal some neglected friendships
- going to the army almost seems like you'd be running away from current problems which isn't a healthy solution, although it would help in your future goal of becoming a cop.
- start college and major in criminal justice
As far as your job, I've heard that Verizon pays better than Cingular, but if you like sales, I've heard that Cingular employees are much happier with their jobs than Verizon or Sprint PCS employees - I love my job.
Answer:
Originally Posted by ChrisHarbison Eww...Verizon...alas I must give sound advice to the competition (I work for Cingular Wireless ).

Seriously though, do not stay at a job you don't like (be it at that V place or any other place). As a man, your job is an integral part of your life and if you hate your job you'll have a miserable life. Honestly, I think the best option of those 3 would be to work part time and go to the local community college. Here are several reasons why I think that would be a good idea:
- use money saved up from working to help with school, plus you get tuition reimbursement
- you'll be at home and could theoretically have a bit more time to possibly heal some neglected friendships
- going to the army almost seems like you'd be running away from current problems which isn't a healthy solution, although it would help in your future goal of becoming a cop.
- start college and major in criminal justice

As far as your job, I've heard that Verizon pays better than Cingular, but if you like sales, I've heard that Cingular employees are much happier with their jobs than Verizon or Sprint PCS employees - I love my job.
For the record, i don't hate my job, i just don't love it. but, its the same principle in the end, i don't want to do it forever.
Answer:
i would tend to agree with Chris... find a college that has the courses you want/need and also one that you'd enjoy going to. (if your going this route for next fall, you'd better apply ASAP... or you could wait another semester or 2).
local college would be good if you could find what you need. one a bit farther from home would get you away from home and into a new atmosphere with new people... depends if thats what you would want or not.
i'm going to purdue this fall (indiana). i just visited last monday. before the visit, i wasn't too exited to go... rather, i never had time to get exited about it. now, i am exited in going. go, visit campuses, spend a day there. you'll get a good idea of how the college works.
and i wouldn't recommend goinging into the miliary. if all your wanting is to get more education through the military, don't join. if you truly have an interest to serve the country, it might be a valid option... but this doesn't seem to be your attitide.
Answer:
Just was noticing how much had changed since this post:
Originally Posted by FrankJr Posted this in advice:

I'm at this fork in the road. I don't know what to do, i'm not sure what my all my choices are, or which is appropriate.

Basically, in the last 6 months, my world has changed.

I've always been the same kind of guy though, a real people pleaser, you might say, I'll do whatever someone needs, or find a way to provide it, whatever it takes. Alot of my friends in the past, while they were my friends say that i'm a good friend, and have a knack for making friends.

I seem to partially base my direction on the people around myself's direction except that, I'm a real dreamer, so if people don't really want better, i tend to sorta change direction and sail past, it seems.

Okay, so its September, and I'm a little down. I had quit my job, and was looking for something else. So I see this job in the paper, and it looks like it could be pretty good. So I apply and they call me back, and after like 8 interviews, I have a Job at Verizon Wireless. During this part of my life, i have a few close friends and run sound at my church. So in October, I start work, we were still short an employee, so I was working a lot. Like 60-70hrs a week alot. So I get somewhat seperated from my friends. Its not that i've ever had a ton of friends, but here it is March, and i'm practically close to no one, I work alot less, around 40/week now, and the job has given me more money than I ever thought I would have this early in life. I moved out during this period, and i'm not real close to anyone. Also, I've slipped away from closeness with God and My church has become such a gossip house for me I'm definatley changing churches.

As far as a wife/girlfriend, I know what I value, and what I want in her, and when I find someone that seems close, I sorta choke, and definatley have problems with physical intimacy prior to a real commitment.

I graduated a year early from high school and my class is graduating in May. I am 18 years old.

I want to be a police officer, its all I've ever wanted to be, and i'm definatley going to do it.

Okay now, onto the acctual fork(s):

Things I need to pick:
Should I go to/stay at:

A.College
1. Local College - Use work tuition reimbursement program and go part time.
2. Abroad - Go full time, get where I want to Quicker.

B.Army
1. Go to the army for a few years, get away from where I am, see the world, and be ready to join the force when I discharge.

C. Verizon Wireless
1. Stay focused on a job i really don't love, and try to climb the corporate ladder.

I also need to get close to our father again.

I also want to take care of my wife and make sure that my life will meet her desires, which makes me want to delay my life while I wait on her.

I'm not close to anyone, as i've said, I would love to have your advice, and Pray your heart out for me, Please, Please.

Thanks,
Frank
I didn't change churches - I changed me.
I didn't choke, and experienced physical intimacy with a girl, my best friend, though, now she doesn't reciprocate romantic feelings anymore, so thats wierd.
I still so want to be a police officer!
As far as college, I'm attending a local community college currently.
I left Verizon Wireless, and everything I hated there. Now I am a full time student, and hope to enlist in the army as an MP by August 1st.
I'm unemployed, and live alone, which has potential to be hard. lol
Some of my friendships grew, and i'm closer to a few people now.
I love the Lord, and spend each day with him!
Just thought that was sweet, so i'd share it
Answer:
If the job is pulling you away from God or pulling you away from your friends I would definitely pray about it then if God leads you I would find another job.