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ok htere is this girl ive liked for awhile and well ya there's times when i like her alot and then there's times were just friends.well the other night i had a dream about a girl i odnt know who but i know what she looks like when i see her.well i was wondering if this girl i had a dream about was just a dream or is she actually out there /see the dream basically was she is everything i ever wnated in a girl acted how i would wnat a girl to act and all htat so im jsut kinda confused here if you guys could help me out.
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Originally Posted by guitarjockey111 ok htere is this girl ive liked for awhile and well ya there's times when i like her alot and then there's times were just friends.well the other night i had a dream about a girl i odnt know who but i know what she looks like when i see her.well i was wondering if this girl i had a dream about was just a dream or is she actually out there /see the dream basically was she is everything i ever wnated in a girl acted how i would wnat a girl to act and all htat so im jsut kinda confused here if you guys could help me out. I would caution you not to look at women for what they offer you ("...she is everything i ever wnated in a girl acted how i would wnat a girl to act and all htat..."). Remember, love is about what you have to offer her. I think that a goal for a healthy "you" is more important than a goal for a properly acting mate.
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I'd venture to say that this dream-girl (literally) is nothing more than that...a fantasy. Based on what you said about her being everything you wanted in a girl, I'd say she's just your imagination creating your ideal woman, and I doubt she is real.
A wise man once said, "God help the man who finds the perfect woman. God help him more so when he has to live with her."
_Epaphras
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Originally Posted by mattslope I would caution you not to look at women for what they offer you ("...she is everything i ever wnated in a girl acted how i would wnat a girl to act and all htat..."). Remember, love is about what you have to offer her.
I didn't know you ever said anything serious/profound, mattriseoverrun.
I should put my What Susan Said quote back in my sig. "Love is found in the things we've given up more than in the things that we have kept (or, in this case, received)."
In His love,
Nate
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Originally Posted by guitarjockey111 ok htere is this girl ive liked for awhile and well ya there's times when i like her alot and then there's times were just friends.well the other night i had a dream about a girl i odnt know who but i know what she looks like when i see her.well i was wondering if this girl i had a dream about was just a dream or is she actually out there /see the dream basically was she is everything i ever wnated in a girl acted how i would wnat a girl to act and all htat so im jsut kinda confused here if you guys could help me out.
You had a perfectly normal dream about a non-existant woman.
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Oh, I forgot to ask... why were you dreaming about my girlfriend?
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Dreams of a perfect girlfriend really _aren't_ a good thing. No one is going to be perfect; no relationship will be effortless. I think that a lot of churches have done great harm to people by teaching "there's a person out there somewhere that God has chosen for you who is just perfect for you." As Christians, of all people, we should expect grace, not perfection, to be the center of our relationships. Expectations of perfection can kill a perfectly good relationship.
It's far better to view relationships as an adventure, a struggle, a journey into the unknown, full of the excitement of discovering someone different from yourself but still compatible (expecting your future spouse to be so similar to yourself that you can understand them without difficulty would be ridiculous), and full of the joy of going through rough times but coming out on the other end with a stronger relationship.
Incidentally, I would disagree with those who say that love is all about giving and not receiving. Any healthy relationship must include _both_ giving joyfully of yourself _and_ receiving gratefully what the other person has to offer. To delight in who someone is and what they do for you is a gift to them. Love isn't selflessness; love is a relationship where the distinction between self-serving and other-serving breaks down. (After all, in our relationship with God, which is the best example of love, receiving from Him and enjoying Him _is_ the chief way that we serve Him.)
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Originally Posted by Nate Oh, I forgot to ask... why were you dreaming about my girlfriend? Oh Brother. *cough*cornball*cough*

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Originally Posted by guitarjockey111 ok htere is this girl ive liked for awhile and well ya there's times when i like her alot and then there's times were just friends.well the other night i had a dream about a girl i odnt know who but i know what she looks like when i see her.well i was wondering if this girl i had a dream about was just a dream or is she actually out there /see the dream basically was she is everything i ever wnated in a girl acted how i would wnat a girl to act and all htat so im jsut kinda confused here if you guys could help me out.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DON'T SEARCH FOR THIS MYSTERY WOMAN!!!!

I have a friend from highschool, and when he was younger he had this dream about a beautiful woman with long dark hair, and she (get this) was holding his child. Well, he was a bit freaked out about it. Told one of his really good friends from school (a girl with really long dark hair) they ended up going out because he thought it was a sign from God they should be together, and they ended up breaking up, and their friendship, although still in tact somewhat, has always been different because of that. Please don't look for a woman in a dream, it was just a dream.
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Originally Posted by sparklystuff Told one of his really good friends from school (a girl with really long dark hair) they ended up going out because he thought it was a sign from God they should be together
Wow. Crazy guy. Even crazier girl. (wait, that wasn't you, was it? don't you have really long dark hair? if so, I retract my "even crazier" comment and replace it with "intelligent," because you broke up with the lunatic and married your spiffirific husband)
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Originally Posted by Nate Wow. Crazy guy. Even crazier girl. (wait, that wasn't you, was it? don't you have really long dark hair? if so, I retract my "even crazier" comment and replace it with "intelligent," because you broke up with the lunatic and married your spiffirific husband)
No, it really wasn't me. I probably would have admitted it. But yes, my hair is long and dark, and when this guy (he was one of my best friends at the time)told me about his dream, I seriously thought that he was implying that it was about me. I got a little nervous Yeah, he is a crazy guy...he also thought a girl was the one, because she did all of the things that a great girl would do, according to a dashboard confessional song. *sighs*