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(I'm logged out in case he happens to read this site)
So i have a friend, who considers me as his best friend, but i only consider him as a friend. So it's really annoying, because he is ALWAYS hanging out with me, and when we go somewhere with a large group of other friends, he always follows me around. Sometimes it gets on my nerves.
Plus I'm not the type of guy who likes having really close friends, i always have this emotional wall that i let very few people cross.
So basically my question is how do i let him know this without losing him as a friend?
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There's not going to be any way you can tell this guy what you're thinking without it hurting him. He obviously cares about you and sees a lot in you. I mean, though whatever circumstances, out of all his friends you're the one he considers the best. Regardless of whatever barriers you've thrown up in the situation.
What is the reason you've built this emotional wall around yourself?
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Originally Posted by Chris What is the reason you've built this emotional wall around yourself? Ummm, mostly because growing up i never really opened up my feelings to people. I ussually kept those bottled in to myself. Now, there are a few people that i open up to, but to most people to be quite honest, i am very fake.
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Is this emotional barrier the only thing keeping you from being better friends with him?
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Originally Posted by Anon_CGR_Mem Ummm, mostly because growing up i never really opened up my feelings to people. I ussually kept those bottled in to myself. Now, there are a few people that i open up to, but to most people to be quite honest, i am very fake. I lived that way for a long time. It's like living this half life and then at the end of the day you're almost confused as to who you really are.
Vulnerability is a hard thing to do but I recommend letting those walls down at least a little bit...Maybe not with the person you started the thread about, that's up to you...
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Originally Posted by Anon_CGR_Mem#5 (I'm logged out in case he happens to read this site)
So i have a friend, who considers me as his best friend, but i only consider him as a friend. So it's really annoying, because he is ALWAYS hanging out with me, and when we go somewhere with a large group of other friends, he always follows me around. Sometimes it gets on my nerves.
Yeah I understand that, and I've had that...honestly if he does that just tell him to be loose....and you guys are good friends, ask him to hold back a little...
Originally Posted by Anon_CGR_Mem#5 Plus I'm not the type of guy who likes having really close friends, i always have this emotional wall that i let very few people cross. Yeah I can understand that....I'm a lot like that...
Originally Posted by Anon_CGR_Mem#5 So basically my question is how do i let him know this without losing him as a friend? when you're talking to someone else and he tries to get your attention just tell him to loosen up...and if you have to ask him to hold back a little so you can talk to everyone...
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Originally Posted by Anon_CGR_Mem Ummm, mostly because growing up i never really opened up my feelings to people. I ussually kept those bottled in to myself. Now, there are a few people that i open up to, but to most people to be quite honest, i am very fake. I can relate with that....but that's not the reasons I don't open up to many people.....if those emotions being bottled up are keeping you fake, maybe you should open up some more to people....its better to open up than to still feel down and fake...I almost never did when I was growing up, but there was a time when I needed....don't get me wrong...you don't always have to do....but sometimes it really helps and is a good release....