Question:
Well, I just moved to a new school, different state, and to be honest there are a lot of really on fire for God Christian guys here..and there are two guys who have really caught my eye. And I know that I need to get to know them better before making any decision just based on their physcial appearance, cuz that's not what it's all about! But I get tongue tied, and trip up when I try to get to know them.. What should I do? If I can't even talk to them, then how can I ever start any kind of relationship in the future? lol. Any suggestions on how to let them know I'd like to get to know them better, without being a 'player' for wanting to get to know both of them better..and any other support or help or suggestion! PLEASE And to answer your question: We are all Juniors in Highschool.
Signed,
Tongue-tied
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The requisite questions:

How old are you? How old are they?


Now that that's out of the way (and yes, that's relevant, so please answer), I can get on to the other things. First, why do you have to tell them that you want to get to know them better. If they're interested in a truly valuable friendship, then when you invest in them emotionally, they'll invest in you.

Secondly, guys are just people just like you are. I used to be really shy around girls because I thought of girls as being totally different. Yes, they're different, but each individual is different. Just talk to them like you'd talk to anyone else. Respect them as a person first. See them as a person, not as a guy. (if that makes any sense at all to anyone on the planet, I'll be thrilled)
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Hey, I know how it feels. I've always been shy around girls and get all tongue tied, I recently started going to a new youth group and started meeting people and started going to a different church and met people, I also started meeting new people with my schooling system (I homeshool) and of course I met a LOT of new girls, and soon realized that I don't have to be shy, just be myself and hang out and have fun. If you just casually hang out with people you soon realize that they are normal people just like you and there is no reason to get all nervous and get where you can't talk. When I first met my girlfriend about 8 months ago I got all tongue tied when she was around and within 2 hours of just hanging around her and her friends I felt like I had known her for years and about 3 1/2 weeks ago I asked her out and she did the whole "I'm saying maybe but I rally mean yes" thing and got me all confused as to what was going on, but I soon figured it all out and all is well. (females! they've never heard of saying yes or no! lol) Just hang out, get to know them, don't get all nervous and remember that just cuz they're dudes they're still normal humans just as you are. In fact, when they see you walking towards them their palms probably get all sweaty and they get nervous and stuff too, I know I did. Now I look back at all the times I was all nervous and everything for nothing and think about how stupid it was! Alright, this post is long enough and I'm going to bed now. (this post probably doesn't even make any sense at all! I'm sleepy. )
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Make a conscious effort to not freak out. Yeah, that should do it.
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Just talk to them... Flirting would be a very bad idea if you want to know a guy. Just strike up a conversation.
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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq Just talk to them... Flirting would be a very bad idea if you want to know a guy. Just strike up a conversation.
Agreed. Here is my faveroite starter questoin;
Whats your faveroite band (Ive found music to be good to start converstaoins.)