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okay here's a problem of mine. i serve God for a very long time of my life folks. everything are changed aside from this problem of mine its very shameful i read the bible and i know what i'm doing is reallllllllllly bad it's againts the will of God. i cant understand myself i'm afraid to face the future. i was raped by my uncle when i was 8 yrears old and then i became a man hater. i'mm afraid.. im afraid... pls give me advice. i wanna get out from this nightmare pls.
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I completely understand your fear or hatred for men. Its normal, knowing what you have gone trough. But i don't exactly what advice you need. What do you do/or what have you done that so bad?
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Originally Posted by ladymask okay here's a problem of mine. i serve God for a very long time of my life folks. everything are changed aside from this problem of mine its very shameful i read the bible and i know what i'm doing is reallllllllllly bad it's againts the will of God. i cant understand myself i'm afraid to face the future. i was raped by my uncle when i was 8 yrears old and then i became a man hater. i'mm afraid.. im afraid... pls give me advice. i wanna get out from this nightmare pls.
you were raped by your uncle when you were 8?
dude.. ring the cops up. he should be behind bars.
but thn again, since he's yur uncle.. you probly wont want tat 2 happen.
hmm.. i think she's trying to say she needs help with. homosexuality..
im not tryin 2 b an ass.
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Originally Posted by ladymask okay here's a problem of mine. i serve God for a very long time of my life folks. everything are changed aside from this problem of mine its very shameful i read the bible and i know what i'm doing is reallllllllllly bad it's againts the will of God. i cant understand myself i'm afraid to face the future. i was raped by my uncle when i was 8 yrears old and then i became a man hater. i'mm afraid.. im afraid... pls give me advice. i wanna get out from this nightmare pls.
hmm..
maybe you should go to a psychiatrist, or your church pastor or youth leader.. depending how old you are.
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How old are you now? In what way do you hate men? Help us in your situation be telling us a bit more because right now, we're all still in the dark. It would be helpful if you told us more about how you feel and what happened after you Uncle raped you. Did you tell your parents? Did you tell anyone??
I'll be praying for you until you want to tell us some more.
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Originally Posted by Yoda_me07
hmm.. i think she's trying to say she needs help with. homosexuality..
im not tryin 2 b an ass.
I doubt it since the person used the name ladymask.
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Originally Posted by ladymask everything are changed aside from this problem of mine its very shameful i read the bible and i know what i'm doing is reallllllllllly bad it's againts the will of God.
One of the amazing things I've discovered about God is that even in the worst moments, even when I'm doing something I know is sinful and I feel like I don't deserve His love, He still loves me and wants me to come to Him with confidence that I am still loved: "Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need" (Heb 4:16).
This may sound like heresy but it's not; it's Biblical: if you are a Christian, sin no longer has the power to separate you from God. Only your _reaction_ to your sin can do that. It's your choice whether you turn from Him in shame, or turn to Him for help. Don't think for a moment that you have to fix yourself up before turning back to Him, because without His help you won't be able to fix anything.
Simply knowing that God loves you unconditionally and delights in you no matter what state you're in will do more to free you from the power of sin than all the shame or determination or fear that you could possibly muster up. So I guess my advice would be to focus, not on your sinfulness, but on God's love. His love really does have the power to transform us. Feelings of shame and condemnation can't do that; all they can do is destroy us. So open yourself to the truth that God really does love you as much right now as He ever did, and you'll find that resting in that love will give you the power to walk with Him.
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i can relate to you on the rape thing. i've been through it numerous times, and can understand how you can find yourself hating men. i would suggest that you give it to God and get some counseling.
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Originally Posted by ladymask okay here's a problem of mine. i serve God for a very long time of my life folks. everything are changed aside from this problem of mine its very shameful i read the bible and i know what i'm doing is reallllllllllly bad it's againts the will of God. i cant understand myself i'm afraid to face the future. i was raped by my uncle when i was 8 yrears old and then i became a man hater. i'mm afraid.. im afraid... pls give me advice. i wanna get out from this nightmare pls. Your fear and anger/hatred toward men is normal in a situation like yours. However, you have to be careful not to over-generalize the situation with your uncle to all men. I know you're aware of that, otherwise you wouldn't have started this thread. I think, a start, would be to sit down, and make a list of all the males in your life that are good, honest and kind men. I think that once you realize that the majority of men are, in fact, not like your uncle, it'll be easier to stop hating them (us).
One more thought, in what way are you outside of God's will? I seriously doubt that you truly hate men. I highly doubt that you loath me personally and wish me dead. I don't think your general mistrust of men is necessarily evil.
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Originally Posted by Yoda_me07 ring the cops up. he should be behind bars. I agree, then a Dr. (along with your parents, if you're under 18)
I think you can, and should do this....please do this.
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Originally Posted by Signing&Singing ...can understand how you can find yourself hating men. i would suggest that you give it to God and get some counseling.
I agree with signing&signing, I haven't been through rape, but have been molested. I would say seek God and good christian counselling. (not just a counsellor who's a christian, but someone who will help you through the problems using christian principles, a pastor would probably be best)
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Hi ladymask, I as well was raped when I was 16 and then molested when I was 5 or 6. I can completly understand what you may be feeling, I as well hated men, and even feel into drugs and other things I have done that I completly regret now, but I'm forgiven, its all in the past and forgotten. I might have a memory of it, but it doesnt not effect my heart anylonger. How? because of Jesus, I had to forgive that person..and persons from my heart, I had to love them reguardless and let it go. I asked God's help, to help me forgive and love the people who have hurt me. And I moved on, I think about the things I have done in the past and how greatful I am that I'm forgiven, just as that I want to forgive others who tresspass against me, or else how can I be forgiven?
Its a hard thing to do, but through Christ all things are possible, all you have to do is pray my friend, I know God is speaking to your heart or you wouldnt be asking for advice, keep your head up and follow what God is showing you. Repent, turn away from what is out of God's will, it only cause's more harm. Stay close to God He will take care of these things, He will renew your mind. Just ask him, you have not cause you ask not.
The past is the past, even if it were five minutes ago, reach forward toward your future. Dont let the past influence you, its just the old devil trying to tear you down, who cares what you have done, just repent, and forget it, its none of our business what you have done, Just talk to God about it. I'll be praying for you, if you want a freind, I'm just a pm away, God bless, melissa
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Originally Posted by ladymask okay here's a problem of mine. i serve God for a very long time of my life folks. everything are changed aside from this problem of mine its very shameful i read the bible and i know what i'm doing is reallllllllllly bad it's againts the will of God. i cant understand myself i'm afraid to face the future. i was d by my uncle when i was 8 yrears old and then i became a man r. i'mm afraid.. im afraid... pls give me advice. i wanna get out from this nightmare pls.
Would you mind giving us information on what your "shameful problem" is? I don't mean to be demanding, you shouldn't feel obligated to post anything; it's just that we can't help you with your real problem if you don't explain it. At least, the indication I get from the reactions of others' posts is that you have a problem as a consequence of your uncle's actions; but let me know if I'm incorrect and you're actually asking for help with your past.

What is the nightmare that you are afraid of?

What you need to remember is that we are all sinners. The sin you may be caught up in perhaps may be dressed up as an "extreme" sin, but the truth is that we are all guilty just the same, regardless of the degree of our sins. The first thing the wants you to think is that you are unworthy of going to God in your guilt. I'm praying for you.