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ok heres my situation: my boyfriend lives two hours away and i REALLY like him but its really hard to be dating him when he lives so far, i see him once in a while but still. Chris (my boyfriend) has drawn me closer to God, he boosts my self esteem every time i talk to him and he makes me feel great to be me... but its so hard to date him when hes so far, he wont be there for me to cry on or he wont be there if i just need a hug but im too scared to tell him how i feel and i dont want to lose him... HELP PLEASE!!
- Zarah
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I know how hard long-distance relationships can be... My boyfriend lives a thousand miles away from me. It is hard to be so far apart, but if you think that he is the right person for you don't let distance ruin your relationship. I know SO many people who have made long-distance relationships work. It is hard, I will admit that. Ask yourself if you are serious about your relationship and if you are, just hang in there!
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Long distance is not impossible. There are a ton of people on this site that are in/have been in long distance relationships. (when I say have been I mean that they are now close together (married)). It's tough though and it takes a lot of work. I'm not saying you're under this false pretense but realtionships aren't all running down the beach and having fun. They take work. Sometimes you have to work really hard at it. It's tough, yes. But it's not impossible.
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but thats not the only problem, im really young and i know that relationships usualy dont last when ur this young even tho i do take it seriously life is just starting for me and i dont want to do anything that will ruin anything for me, i dont think i would regret dating at this age, but i just want to be cautious...
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Originally Posted by DiosEsBuen but thats not the only problem, im really young and i know that relationships usualy dont last when ur this young even tho i do take it seriously life is just starting for me and i dont want to do anything that will ruin anything for me, i dont think i would regret dating at this age, but i just want to be cautious... If y ou're s young, and you realise it likely will not end up working out, as hard as it may be to hear it. You may need to just break it off. You said you don't want to do anything that would ruin anything for you. Well, unfortunatly like isn't like that. the choices we make everyday have consequences and even the tiniest decision can start a chain that may lead to something going immensely wrong... or immensely right. The hardest decisions to make are always those with bad consequences that happen right away. But in the wake of that "tragedy", if you will, there's a world of opportunity. I'll leave it there since I've already said a mouthfull and probably confused everyone. If you need me to clarify anything I'll be glad to.
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so you think i should just break up with him? i really have feelings for this guy and my chances of finding another guy like him that would like me are pretty low, i dont want to lose him and its hard for me to tell him how i feel cuz i dont want him to get upset... but your probably rite, do u think i should just tell him how i feel and see how he responds to that?
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I would suggest it yeah. Bottling feelings up (especially when they have to do with a significant other or someone else close to you) is only destructive to the relationship in the end (voice of experience).
I'm not saying out and out that you should break up with him. I want you to decide whether or not to do that on your own after weighing everything out. It sounds like a big job but so is holding down a long distance relationship. ^_^
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thanx, ill talk to him about it, tell him how i feel and go from there thanx for all your help!!!
God Bless!
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i probably sound really stupid but here goes anyways.. today i was going to tell him but then... i just stopped thinking, i couldnt think of anything to say, i was stuck! i dont know how to tell him! it really sux. i want to tell him but i just freeze and cant think straight when i go to talk. lol u mite think im crazy... maybe i am but seriously i cant just go on without him knowing how i feel but i cant tell him either.... what to do, what to do
p.s. if anyone acctually comes up with a resonable answer that works ur awesome!
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I for one know how difficult conversation is. That's why I love the message boards so much. You can sit and ponder what you're going to say. Maybe telling him over an IM or the phone isn't the best course of action. Try writing a letter to him and sending it through the postal system. (I cannot suggest e-mail since I was dumped over it once and it is ten times as humiliating, infuriating, and hurtful as anything you can possibly imagine.)
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ya, i was kinda hopeing i could say it to him where i could see what he says in response but i guess it would be better if he had time to figure it all out.. ill try that and tell ya how iit all works out (hopefully for the better!) thanx, God Bless!
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Wow, it went great! Chris totaly understood and was so great about it! thanx for all ur help!! God Bless!
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Originally Posted by DiosEsBuen ok heres my situation: my boyfriend lives two hours away and i REALLY like him but its really hard to be dating him when he lives so far, i see him once in a while but still. Chris (my boyfriend) has drawn me closer to God, he boosts my self esteem every time i talk to him and he makes me feel great to be me... but its so hard to date him when hes so far, he wont be there for me to cry on or he wont be there if i just need a hug but im too scared to tell him how i feel and i dont want to lose him... HELP PLEASE!!
- Zarah I have lived 2000+ miles from my fiancee for the 3 years I have been dating my fiancee. You can make it work, but it is hard and has to be a mutual priority. I would never break up over a distance issue. However, please do it face to face if you must.