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Or does it still?
I'm going through sucha tough patch in our engagement. I thought I'd vent here and see if was a common thing and not just me becoming paranoid.
Recently many situations have conspired to prevent moving further in our life.
My poor fiancé had a motor bike accident, which thank God he survived without major injury, but which is causing money worries. His job isn't going quite as he'd intended. (That'll work out, I'm an optimist sometimes) My mother just seems to resent him, but when questioned never appears to tell the whole truth. My future plans for teacher training, which ever path I take would lead to Rob supporting me for an extra year.
Urgh there's just so much stuff in the way that sometimes I wonder whether we'll ever get married. I know in my heart it is right. But the Head can't work out how it'll work. Is this a case of "Pray and Trust God and Stop trying to understand how he works" syndrome?
Anyone else relate?
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For me, it's not so much people being against my marriage, but thinking I'm too young to be getting married. People are ALWAYS asking me...."Aren't a little young to be getting married?" It's kind of annoying, but I just deal with it.
I guess I really can't relate to you. I'm sure it's hard though.
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I get the 'too young' thing alot. I'm 18. So I just say, "Well I'm not actually getting married for x years"
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Originally Posted by Sapphy I get the 'too young' thing alot. I'm 18. So I just say, "Well I'm not actually getting married for x years" When are you getting married?
I'm getting married on March 11th, so I'll still be 19. I turn 20 in June.
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ppl will always say something bad... it's a given in life.
but the key thing is... listen to the things ppl say, whether it be negative or positive... and objectively sort out everything.. ultimately, it's you and your fiance that knows the exact situation and you two are the ones who are going to decide.
just keep praying about everything... even the littlest things
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Originally Posted by WandaWoman When are you getting married?
I'm getting married on March 11th, so I'll still be 19. I turn 20 in June. Hopefully in three years when I have some university under my belt and Rob has a place for us to live in.
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I think alot of people think anyone under... 25 is too young to be getting married. And within the last year I've known several couples that were "too young" to get married that did it anyhow.
well, I haven't dealt with my family not liking my husband as they all love him. They did, on the other hand, want us to wait to get married, or to elope, or to let them plan the wedding. Through those situations, my main advice would be to pick your battles.
to Sapphy (in particular), I'd say even though the wedding is a few years off, try to be thinking about what you want the wedding to be like. The last six months of wedding planning slip through your fingers like you wouldn't believe! And try not to let all the negative comments get you down...
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Thanks for your positive comments and support. I have some ideas already, colours,places, outfits etc..
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Urg, I hate the "too young" thing. Whenever I say "my husband" I either get strange double-takes or the usual, "You're married?? How old are you? Didn't you want to find yourself first/live a little before settling down/travel and see the world/have fun with your life?" To which each I say, "And how is getting married stopping me?"
Sorry, just a rant. It doesn't stop after your married. Sapphy, just stay encouraged and remember a lot of things can work themselves out in 2-3 years. Things may seem impossibly money-wise now, but you've got lots of time for miracles to happen. And to buy lottery tickets.
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Originally Posted by loriborealis Urg, I hate the "too young" thing. Whenever I say "my husband" I either get strange double-takes or the usual, "You're married?? How old are you? Didn't you want to find yourself first/live a little before settling down/travel and see the world/have fun with your life?" To which each I say, "And how is getting married stopping me?" I got that "find yourself/travel the world/act your age/have fun..." talk from friends of ours when we got engaged.
*sigh* people sometimes...
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oh i wish i had that comment
i, on the other hand, had the comment "you're still not married!?" because they think i'm too old to still be single
the age comment is a given
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Originally Posted by loriborealis Urg, I hate the "too young" thing. Whenever I say "my husband" I either get strange double-takes or the usual, "You're married?? How old are you? Didn't you want to find yourself first/live a little before settling down/travel and see the world/have fun with your life?" To which each I say, "And how is getting married stopping me?"
Sorry, just a rant. It doesn't stop after your married. Sapphy, just stay encouraged and remember a lot of things can work themselves out in 2-3 years. Things may seem impossibly money-wise now, but you've got lots of time for miracles to happen. And to buy lottery tickets. Oh thank you Lori! I get that 'Find your self' thing so much. They [and I use that to mean all my nay-sayers] can't understand that I already found me! Or rather God did...lol. I say I'm going to see the world with Rob if they try the 'going to see the world one'..hehe...
and Lori, check your PM...
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Wow, it's really great to know I'm not alone. I turned 18 only eight days before my wedding. So I got a lot of flak from people, being only 17 and engaged. My parents and family were for it because we had been together since high school, but I get the looks all the time from people when I say I'm married.
It's really hard to have people constantly saying you're too young, and usually it's people that hardly know you. People at work would say things like, "are you sure?" it's just hard, because people don't really understand.
I can relate totally to the "living life" first comment. The interim pastor at my church told us that. He said, "Don't you want to experience life first?" We just replied, "We want to experience life together!"
I will be praying for the situation with the accident. I know how an accident can put a burden on finances. My husband and I were recently in a car accident, and even just the towing fees, and storage fees, can really add stress to a budget!