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How do you address someone you think might be deceptive?
Not purposely deceptive, but saying things to make himself look better. Like, he'll say one thing, and then later he'll say something else because the last thing he said sounded bad and he doesn't want to sound bad or something
I don't know if I'm missreading this or what, but due to past experiences with this kind of thing, it is kinda scaring me, and I'm not sure if I should talk to him about it, or just wait it out, or what.
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Originally Posted by girl Like, he'll say one thing, and then later he'll say something else because the last thing he said sounded bad and he doesn't want to sound bad or something
what do you mean.... with my girlfriend sometimes i wil say something that comes out so totally wrong, and when i realise and clarify, it sounds like im saying something totally different, only because the first time it came out wrong..... so if she didnt know this is what i was like she would probably think i was lying or not telling her how i felt etc....
could this be what is happening?
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Originally Posted by Simo what do you mean.... with my girlfriend sometimes i wil say something that comes out so totally wrong, and when i realise and clarify, it sounds like im saying something totally different, only because the first time it came out wrong..... so if she didnt know this is what i was like she would probably think i was lying or not telling her how i felt etc....
could this be what is happening?
It could be, I tend to think not though.
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you yourself said "not purposely deceptive" so... is it harmful to anyone directly?
I guess it depends on how well you know the person. If you're comfortable with them, why not call them on it? there may be a reasonable explanation...
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Yeah, it could be something as simple as he said something that came out completely wrong and in a way he didn't intend whatsoever and later realising what he said and how it sounded and wanted to clarify to everyone that he made a mistake and didn't want to give people the wrong idea about who he is. If it is bothering you though you could ask him. Personally I'm all for the benefit of the doubt.
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It sounds like the person has little to no self-confidence and lies so others will think highly of him/her and thereby feeling good about him/herself.
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Sounds like you're right, Chris. If you're both Christians, then you're in a position to call him out on it. However, if you don't know each other well (expound, please? ), then it would be quite awkward and confrontational, I think.

Another good way to help stuff an insecure person's lies is to make him feel secure in himself. Basically, you could get to know him; really try to search past the fibs and lies, and give him a friend who he can rely on. Once he has a friend or two, he should be less conscious of his own seemingly weak image, because he knows that he means something already to his friends. Thing is, a person like this may never really develop friends, so it's up to you to make an initiative. That's the long version, but the better way of getting him out of his habit.