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Hey
OK heres the deal. Im 16 and i like this girl and i want to like get to know and court her. I want to ask her if she feels the same way. Idk how do it. Like i dont want to talk to her then she doesnt want to even be friends. Can someone give me some advice?
Jamie
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What does "courting someone" mean to you?
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Courting means to get to know someone, hanging out in a group inverment not alone. and just waiting to see were it goes.
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Originally Posted by underoath17 Hey
OK heres the deal. Im 16 and i like this girl and i want to like get to know and court her. I want to ask her if she feels the same way. Idk how do it. Like i dont want to talk to her then she doesnt want to even be friends. Can someone give me some advice?
Jamie You're only 16. Unless you plan on getting married in the next two years, don't date/court her. Just be friends.
BTW, most people would call your definition of "courtship" (hanging out in groups and getting to know each other) simply friendship
You have years to grow yet. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. It will happen fast enough. Enjoy your single years. "Courtship" can come later, when you are more financially and emotionally secure/stable.
In His love,
Sean
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Originally Posted by Epaphras You're only 16. Unless you plan on getting married in the next two years, don't date/court her. Just be friends.

BTW, most people would call your definition of "courtship" (hanging out in groups and getting to know each other) simply friendship

You have years to grow yet. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. It will happen fast enough. Enjoy your single years. "Courtship" can come later, when you are more financially and emotionally secure/stable.

In His love,
Sean
I agree, I don't think you understand what people usually mean when they say they are courting. Usually when two people say they are courting, they are in the process of dating one another with the purpose of seeknig our a marriage partner in that person. As it was said above, you're no where near old enough to be thinking about marriage right now. Slow down, just be friends.
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ok thanks for the advice. I dont know that ill use tho. I feel like i want to court her cuz we have been friends for 5 years. soo thanks again
jamie
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Originally Posted by underoath17 ok thanks for the advice. I dont know that ill use tho. I feel like i want to court her cuz we have been friends for 5 years. soo thanks again
jamie You're too young.
Don't act on your feelings. Feelings change.
You can do absolutely no harm by waiting. You can ruin both your future marriages if you do something foolish now. I stronly advise that you wait and simply be content being friends.
In His love,
Sean
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dude seriously, it is up to you.
i think at 16, yeah possibly it is time to start thinking about dating, your old enough to make your own decision! so yeah do what you feel is best, talk to your parents about it, i alwayd did, make sure it is okay with them,
then stay level headed and focused on God and everything will be okay!
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after re-reading my post I have to apologize for the harshness of my words in advance of anyone reading them. What I said is rather blunt but it also needs to be heard/read. Originally Posted by underoath17 ok thanks for the advice. I dont know that ill use tho. I feel like i want to court her cuz we have been friends for 5 years. soo thanks again
jamie 5 years, eh? I had girls that were friends from the time I was in Kindergarten to Grade 11 (12 years) and that wasn't even a good enough reason then to try and court/date them.
Your reasons for courting/dating should include (but not be limited to) you want to get married (prefferably within the next 2-4 years), you have prayed over it many times and feel God is leading you this way (tricky sometimes and people most often don't listen to God and go their own way anyways). As I believe BillSPrestonEsq (I believe) once put it, You could see in skywriting in big letters that God doesn't want you two together and you'll still try to find ways to rationalize that that's not true. And he definitely hit the nail on the head with that one.
Honestly, if your soul reason for courting/dating is "because you want to" then you don't have a good enough reason. In my humble opinion, it's a very selfish reason. If you go ahead and court/date her with that reason in mind it's going to end in messy dividing heartbreak. Plain and simple.
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Originally Posted by Chris [size=1]Your reasons for courting/dating should include (but not be limited to) you want to get married (prefferably within the next 2-4 years), you have prayed over it many times and feel God is leading you this way (tricky sometimes and people most often don't listen to God and go their own way anyways). As I believe BillSPrestonEsq (I believe) once put it, You could see in skywriting in big letters that God doesn't want you two together and you'll still try to find ways to rationalize that that's not true. And he definitely hit the nail on the head with that one.
Honestly, if your soul reason for courting/dating is "because you want to" then you don't have a good enough reason. In my humble opinion, it's a very selfish reason. If you go ahead and court/date her with that reason in mind it's going to end in messy dividing heartbreak. Plain and simple.
I agree!