Question:
I am assuming this is the right forum...but I am looking for advice about a friendship thing. If it's not in the right place, move it
Anyway, here's the deal. My friend and I got pretty tight pretty fast. Then, all of a sudden, I have felt like there has been a wall between us and I don't know why. We talked about it, and we're both wanting to do something, but we're at a loss of how to go about strengthening our friendship. We talk a lot (we live far apart, so our communication is limited to phone and emails and stuff) and are fairly open, but it's still like we have lost whatever connection we had.
Any ideas??
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Latte
Answer:
Don't focus on the friendship but on being friends.
If that doesn't make any sense, then maybe an illustration would help. A good friendship is a side-by-side relationship not a face-to-face relationship.
No one becomes friends with someone by discussing how they should become friends and talking about friendship and how to be friends. Becoming friends is usually a matter of mutual interest and mutual involvement (in some sort of conversation or activity). Naturally, if it are not built by focusing on itself, then friendship will not be sustained by focusing on the friendship itself. At least that's how I see it. Talk about things that you're both interested in. In as much as you can, do things together; that's how friendships are built.
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This may just be my take on it... but it's what I've learned through the years:
Friends come and friends go. I haven't talked to my best friend from high school in 5 or 6 years... and I only talk to 2 or 3 of many friends I made while in the military, and I only talk to them about maybe twice a year or so. I have friends in College Station that I don't talk to as often as I'd like...
God puts people in our lives (or us in other's) for a reason. God may just place us in someone's life only temporarily. Be friends always, but if you lose contact, I don't see how that makes ya'll any less of friends. I was the best man at 2 different friend's weddings... and I barely talk to them.
I'm not sure if any of this makes sense... it does to me... but I have a hard time explaining myself sometimes.
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I think bob and nathan have covered what I was going to say
Answer:
I like your thoughts... but actually I've been able to talk to some people here and it's taken care of. Yeah, a nice happy ending...isn't that sweet? hahaha. Thanks, though
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Latte