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Hey all! I've been discussing standards alot with friends this week, so I'm curious... what are some of your standards for a guy/girl (as in dating)? What standards do you think are important to have? HOw do you know if your standards are too high? Any opinions on those questions and others are welcome
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What do you mean here by standards?
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Originally Posted by beth1447 Hey all! I've been discussing standards alot with friends this week, so I'm curious... what are some of your standards for a guy/girl (as in dating)? What standards do you think are important to have? HOw do you know if your standards are too high? Any opinions on those questions and others are welcome
Christian female is my only really set in stone standard.
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christian.
I'd also like to meet a girl who has a personality that meshes well with mine, as some kinds of personalities work together, and some don't.
Naturally some amount of physical attraction is important as well, but it's not the most important thing.
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My standards included things like patient, athletic, kind, not ugly, smart/intelligent, funny (similar sense of humor), God-fearing, and a many others that I'm sure I'm forgetting. I have a list somewhere of traits that I was made to compile as part of an assignment I did for my "Marriage and the Family" class a few years back. We had to come up with ten traits and also ask two close relatives to each make a list of five traits they would want our future spouse to have. It was interesting to go over the lists with them and compare it to the list I had made. They tended to be much more practical than me, and I could see that some of the standards that I had set were too high.
I also used the fruits of the Spirit as a kind of standard, allowing for imperfection, of course. If I was interested in a guy, I would watch to see if he showed those qualities in his everday life.
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My standards are the following: Christian, mentally balanced, and would mesh well in a dating relationship.
I used to have a lot more (similar interests, mutual attraction, intelligent, kind, and so on), but I figured out that those really aren't necessary, because a lot of different kinds of people would mesh well with me in a dating relationship. As for mutual attraction, I figured why bother with all that drama when, if we'd mesh well, the attraction would grow on its own. And as for mentally balanced, I don't want someone that's going to be needy and suck the life out of me, or someone that would be otherwise emotionally abusive. Even if we would mesh well, I want a girl that won't make me the locus of her problems.