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If you want to read the story behind this, read here. Anyway.
So I finally talked to this girl this morning, after a long stressful morning of various church stuff being changed around and whatnot. But I finally found 5 minutes to sit down and talk with her. After I told her how I felt, what she told me is that right now, she is not sure she ever wants to marry or have any kind of relationship. And then besides that (this part I already knew) in 4 months, she is going to a three year bible college in Florida, and then hopefully to the mission field. So I am pretty crushed. I wish I had known this a year and a half ago. I have been thinking about her and hoping for that period of time, and now, nothing. Please pray for me, this is going to be really difficult for me. I have to continue to see her too, cause we are on several worship teams together and we are in the same youth group. I am sure we will probably continue to be good friends, but in some ways, that is just going to make things all harder for me. Thank God, I have a really good friend of mine who I talk about everything with. I was driving him home today, and I confided this situation in to him and asked him to pray for me. He brought back to my memory the fact that he had a very similar situation with this exact same girl, like 6 months or a year ago, so he knows EXACTLY what I going through.
Anyway, please just lift me up. This was not just an unreasonable childhood crush, I really liked this girl, for intelligent reasons as well as emotional. and I think she would have been a really good match for me. I guess life goes on , and God has someone else in store for me down the road somewhere.
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I am sure that everything will work out for the best accoding to God's design. I will be praying for you and the situation.
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Wow, dude...I'm definitely sorry you have to go through this. It's quite possible that I know exactly how you feel as I've had a very similar experience, and I know how much it hurts. My situation concluded just over a year ago, and looking back I can see how much I've grown since then. I know it's pretty much useless to tell you there's someone else for you, 'cause I know right now it might seem like she is perfect (or close to it) for you, but just keep your faith in God and rely on him through the entire situation. I know you know this, but God IS in control and if this had been the girl He has planned for you, it would have worked out (or possibly may work out in the future, who knows).
Again, I'm sorry you had to go through this. I will try to remember you in my prayers.
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I just want to make 3 points here.
1) I always thought I would be uninterested in a relationship for years till I was blindsided by love.
2) Distance is not the end. Keep up the friendship. If she is this wonderful, she is worth keeping up with as a friend. And, not to get your hopes up at all, but people change, they change a lot.
3) You never know where life will lead.