Question:
I have a friend M who I believe has a combination of depression and senioritis (we're seniors in high school). M misses school often and therefore, needs notes occasionally. I am more than glad to give notes to M. My other friend, K, on the other hand, just gets really upset whenever this person misses school and/or asks for notes or resources we got that day in class, etc. K and M are now at odds because M feels like K is mothering her, because K refuses to give M any assistance.. K insists that I must join her and not give notes to M. I don't think this will solve the problem and I think it will only make the situation worse for M. What should I do?
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Getting notes from someone who was in class is what instructors WANT students to do, at least most of the time.
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personal experience talking
i used to be in M's shoes... only im not really sure M;s reasons, mine was on purpose.
thats right.. i was a skipper. i thnk i only went to 5-7 civics classes... (and passed with a 65? PRAISE GOD) .. that along with math.. and history... and business... well lets just say it was a bad year
my point? in all the classes i missed no one gave me notes... it didnt make it any harder, but it didnt discourage me from skipping either. i just didnt care... but i did have a friend who was there for me the entire way... and i think thats what got me through it...
not sure if this will help
God Bless
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if M is asking for notes from class, then M cares about passing enough to use those notes. I think you need to know alot more about M's situation before judging M and not helping. It doesn't inconveniance you to give M notes.. (if it did, then perhaps my answer would be a bit different), so therefore keep giving the notes. To be honest, K is trying to manipulate M, and that actually isn't healthy. Manipulation often just makes things worse.
Anyways, deffinatlly be a friend to M, and be there for M.
like Bob said.. teachers encourage you to get notes from other students.
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Personally? It depends on why she's missing the classes. *wink*
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It doesn't seem like there's a good enough reason for you to stop helping her by giving her notes. I wouldn't let one person discourage you from continuing to do that.
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tell K if they were in M situation if they'd want the help....and if they can put themselves in the other person's shoes, they'd probably understand....
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I think sharing your notes is perfectly fine. Like Daniel said, I'm pretty sure most teachers would want students to share their notes. Learning the material is still ultimately up to M, and I feel you're welcome to help her. I think K's problem with M is not your problem.
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Alright, good. I'm definitely going to continue helping her. Thanks for the advice guys.