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Hi,
I have a friend who has just finished high school and is having difficulty making some of the big decisions that follow that.
She got a job at an accounting firm as a secretary full time and now she is going to start TAFE (Technical And Further Education), which is similar to University. This would mean that she would have a very busy schedule and not too much time for a social life. She did very well to get her job as she was up against a large number of applicants and she probably wouldn´t be able to get another job like it.
She has been asking me for advice on whether she has made the right decision in choosing such a full on program when she has just finished school. Some people have told her that she is silly to make a decision like this when she is so young and should have waited a bit. I was quite supportive of the decisions she made but was also aware of the big time commitment and want her to be sure that she is doing something that she really wants to be doing and that it will lead her somewhere she will be happy.
I would be grateful if anyone has anything that could be helpful for me to pass onto her in this situation. I´m happy to answer any more specific questions anyone might have that would make the situation easier to understand.
Thankyou for your time.
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Originally Posted by Vespertine I was quite supportive of the decisions she made but was also aware of the big time commitment and want her to be sure that she is doing something that she really wants to be doing and that it will lead her somewhere she will be happy.
You're on the right track. Ask her what she thinks would happen and how she would feel if she made this choice or that. Don't let her make the decision on her own, though. Tell her to pray about it, hard. God will guide her in the right path if she looks to Him for that guidance.
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Thanks for your help. I told her to pray and ask God to lead her thinking but also know that whatever she chooses, God will be with her and be leading her if she has a heart after him. Your reply is much appriciated, thankyou.
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Any time. Let me know how it goes.
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First and foremost on my mind is...
If you don't work full-time and "get such a full load" after you get out of high school, when exactly will you? By you I mean anyone. Your life after school (or in this case between school) doesn't begin at a set time, it starts whenever you cause it to start.
That said, though, I think it's a mistake to take on a full class load with a full-time job. Potentially. She is going to need some good support that doesn't consist of, "One day everything will be better."
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Originally Posted by H.M. Murdock She is going to need some good support that doesn't consist of, "One day everything will be better." ^
What can you suggest?
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I agree. She doesn't want to wait for a good day that never seems to come, she wants today to be a good day.
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Originally Posted by Vespertine ^
What can you suggest?
a plan to make things better quite seriously. I did full time work overloaded student for a few years. It is a beast. Seriously you need to hash out a serious, logical plan and take steps to make it happen.
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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq a plan to make things better quite seriously. I did full time work overloaded student for a few years. It is a beast. Seriously you need to hash out a serious, logical plan and take steps to make it happen. Yes a thousand times over. That and don't let her sink into that idiotic state of mind that says it will all be better "if" or "when." Because when "if" or "when" comes along, there will just be a different set of problems. So life becomes a cascade of "things'll get better if/when..." and the person in question will simply end up living a life of quiet misery.
Things are good now. Things were good yesterday. Things are great tomorrow. "Hallelujah anyhow," as it were.
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I didn't see this thread...
In any case, I agree with Bill and Jason. However, I believe the situation has changed somewhat?