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ok so i liked a girl alot then she became my ex we got together again then broek up then i tried to get back with her twice and it hasnt worked. but i know why its one of those things i cant get over her. but i have to this time i know its not what God has for me. So what do you know that would help. and im really needing some scriputre on this and havnt found anything of yet.
I dont feel like going into great detail cause it would fill up 3 years worth of pages. but feel free to ask questions.
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my advice would be to find something that will take up your time that you spend thinking about this and do that instead. i don't know how serious your relationship was and that can have a lot to do with things. i guess just turn your eyes to Jesus. Sorry i'm not much help, i haven't really had a situation like that.
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To get over someone:
Don't dwell on them or on how much you need to get over them. Thinking about needing to get over someone can, paradoxically, make it harder to get over them. The best thing you can do is to keep your mind off of her entirely. When she comes to your mind, distract yourself with something else. Don't spend time thinking about her. Don't spend time thinking about things you could do to get over her. It will take time to get over her even with distracting yourself, but if you're constantly thinking about her, it will take an eternity.
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thnx guys for all the help so far.
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Okay, about...a month and a half ago a girl that I'd been going out with for a few months broke up with me. She'd been my first gf, and I loved her to no end. It tore me apart when she broke up with me. It hurt like nothing else.
Even after the break, when I was trying to get over it and be friends with her, she hurt me...she lied to me and did other stuff that hurt. And she never said she was sorry for any of it.
I'd read the book 'wild at heart' by John Eldredge a few months ago, and some of the words from that book really helped me through. THe book is a christian book, and it had God behind all of it.
He said that we as men can NOT let ourselves find who we are in a girl, or girls. We need to find who we are in God. Remember, that no matter what you go through in life, no matter what girl lets you go, and no matter how much it hurts. God is always there, and he has a plan for you. He has a special girl in mind, just for you. It just might not be her. But if you wait, if your patient, and go by Gods time, not yours, then you'll meet the girl of your dreams. He's got someone perfect for you.
And something else I had to think about was that, I'm young, with a lot of life before me. The chances of me actually being with her for the rest of my life were really small. So, I had to accept that. But I guess I don't know how old you are.
I hope some of that helped.
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yeah that did help thnx for bringing it up. oh and im 18
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Originally Posted by Sith of blades Okay, about...a month and a half ago a girl that I'd been going out with for a few months broke up with me. She'd been my first gf, and I loved her to no end. It tore me apart when she broke up with me. It hurt like nothing else.
Even after the break, when I was trying to get over it and be friends with her, she hurt me...she lied to me and did other stuff that hurt. And she never said she was sorry for any of it.
I'd read the book 'wild at heart' by John Eldredge a few months ago, and some of the words from that book really helped me through. THe book is a christian book, and it had God behind all of it.
He said that we as men can NOT let ourselves find who we are in a girl, or girls. We need to find who we are in God. Remember, that no matter what you go through in life, no matter what girl lets you go, and no matter how much it hurts. God is always there, and he has a plan for you. He has a special girl in mind, just for you. It just might not be her. But if you wait, if your patient, and go by Gods time, not yours, then you'll meet the girl of your dreams. He's got someone perfect for you.
And something else I had to think about was that, I'm young, with a lot of life before me. The chances of me actually being with her for the rest of my life were really small. So, I had to accept that. But I guess I don't know how old you are.
I hope some of that helped.
quite true.
Originally Posted by bobthecockroach To get over someone:
Don't dwell on them or on how much you need to get over them. Thinking about needing to get over someone can, paradoxically, make it harder to get over them. The best thing you can do is to keep your mind off of her entirely. When she comes to your mind, distract yourself with something else. Don't spend time thinking about her. Don't spend time thinking about things you could do to get over her. It will take time to get over her even with distracting yourself, but if you're constantly thinking about her, it will take an eternity.
and yes this also quite true. but however keep urself in check. you should try avoiding(rite word?) the person until you are sure that u are completely over the person. Just because all the distractions made u forget about the feeling doesnt mean the feeling went away.
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Originally Posted by burningtr33 you should try avoiding(rite word?) the person until you are sure that u are completely over the person. Just because all the distractions made u forget about the feeling doesnt mean the feeling went away. And, contrary to popular opinion, it is okay to say, "Look, I can't see you or talk to you because I am not over you yet."
It really is fine.
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Originally Posted by H.M. Murdock And, contrary to popular opinion, it is okay to say, "Look, I can't see you or talk to you because I am not over you yet."
It really is fine.
yea that works too