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So my good friend Micah went to college this year a few months ago, and he's coming back for the Thanksgiving week... How likely is it that he still thinks of me as a good friend? I know he did, 'cause he told me, ha, but how likely, after a few months of getting all these new friends, is it that I'm still a friend, even though I'm back home and can't talk to him much? I'm worried about this, 'cause he's an incredibly awesome guy (the kind that, if I went to war with him, I'd follow him to the death), and definitely one of my best friends. I want to do a sleepover at least, but I dunno. That nagging fear that he won't really be a great friend when he's back tugs at me. Help?
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How likely is it? Quite. Though I would reccomend taking the time to retain contact.
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I'd say you'll still be friends. It might be a bit weird at first, but you'll both get over that.
Do you try and keep in touch while he's away. Maybe you can send him emails or leave messages on eacothers myspace or something. There's always the phone too, phonecalls are good. Or even the occasional text message on your cell phone (if you have one).
Long distance friendships can survive, you just have to keep in touch
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If it has only been a few months, i would hazard a guess that it really won't be different at all. It might feel a little different at first. People don't generally change heaps in a few months.
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All you'll really need to do is take a bit of time and do some catching up on major life events of the past few months. It'll be like you two saw each other yesterday.
The way he considers you a friend is not affected by how many new friends he has.
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I wish that more of my friends would have cared as much as you do when I went away to college.
I think it is very likely that you will still be good friends. Keep in touch with him; keep him updated on your life and what's going on in your world. Also, don't worry about it if he starts telling you about his new friends. If he's such an amazing person, then he's bound to make new friends and those people are probably pretty amazing as well (as you must be, too!) So try and be interested in his life and get excited about meeting these new friends someday!
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my really good friend went to college last year and was always coming back. this year i haven't seen him at all, yet whenever we talk there is still an old, familiar comfort that will probably always be there.
take the time to send an e-mail or text message every few days!
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Thanks for the replies, guys
That was very encouraging to read. I'd meant to, when he left, e-mail him every few days and stuff, but I got really busy, so I couldn't do it. I'm in one of those annoying times where it feels like all of your minutes are eaten up by something, even if you don't know what, ya know? Very annoying... Anyway, though, thanks for your encouraging words! I'll be sure to try to plan a sleepover or something!
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Well, he's back in town, finally, and I talked with him on the phone for over forty-five minutes, and I am so thankful we're still best friends! I even found out that he thinks of me as a best friend, and did when he left, too, ha, so I didn't even know we were that good of friends! (I'd always regarded him as a best friend, but hey) Anyway, we're planning stuff, so thanks for all of your encouragement and help!
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Cool. That's good to hear
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Sometimes the best way to go about things is just to not stress too much, right?
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Originally Posted by Rainer. Sometimes the best way to go about things is just to not stress too much, right?
I'll toast to that
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Sometimes people grow apart. It is actually most likely that someone who goes away grows, but whether that person grows "apart" from others is any man's guess.
There are some pretty cool people out there and it sounds like Micah is one. May God bless you and him and all who come across your paths.
Proverbs 18:24 (ESV) 24 A man of many companions may come to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
It may be a friend here or friend there, but we can all agree that Person to those who know Him, is always Christ Jesus.
I can tell you from 34 years experience, it is sometimes much better to be a friend, than to have one. Ahhh the memories.
~Michael
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Dude, i wouldn't worry about it. if he was a close friend before, theres no problem. i would know, i'm a missionary kid in mexico and my best friend is too. he left around the beggining of august to go a six month leave with his family. i don't talk to him a whole lot, but when i do it's like he hasn't left. can't wait till he get's back in February. so what i'm aiming at is that if you were close before it will be fine. the only thing i can say is don't expect him to be exactly the same (obviously) and don't hold ANY grudges (i did that the last time i left and came back, took awhile to get back on track).
that's by two cents