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so finally....after a year and five months, the relationship i had is now gone. why is being apart so hard? i haven't felt this much pain. It's like, a gradual but very strong pain. It literally feels like my heart is empty. I know, though, that i should be centered on God, but it's hard. The girl that you really love, has been taken away. I know that everything God does is for the better, but how can i see it that way? God has taken away someone that i've talked to everyday.
idk what to do at this point....so many things have tempted me.
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Just try your best to move on. It's going to take a lot of time. A LOT of time. The only thing you can do is try to keep your mind focused on other things. There's no way to make the pain just go away. Also, I think God will understand if you don't understand. Let Him be God, and you just worry about getting through this pain. He will work something out, and you won't see it until it happens, so there's no sense worrying about it now.
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Man, my girlfriend of three and a half years broke up with me in August. I've never been more hurt and confused in my entire life. However, in the last few months, I've seen God do things in my life like never before. I'm just now beginning to cope with what all is going on. I'll be praying for ya man, I know how hard it is. Just be sure to stay busy and stay active in church.
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Unfortunately, everybody is right. There is no way to cut off the pain, and time is the key. You have to focus on other things. Focus on God, the church, and any thing else edifying. It's the only way. We've been there an know just what you are going through. Be strong. Rely on God. Prayers...
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Take some responsibility for your own life situation, man. God didn't "take her away from you" (unless she was killed in some freak car accident or whatnot); you did some things, she did some things, you said some things, she said some things, and for whatever reason one or both of y'all decided that the relationship wasn't going to work out. If you continue to live your life with the mindset that things are "happening to you" that are beyond your control, you're liable to turn into a miserable wretch and live a completely reactionary life (which will lead you into disasterous things like "rebound" relationships, addictions, etc). There are precious few things in life that affect you that are absolutely and totally beyond your control. Unless this was really one of those things, own up for your faults and to this situation, change something, and move on.
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Originally Posted by Nate Take some responsibility for your own life situation, man. God didn't "take her away from you" (unless she was killed in some freak car accident or whatnot); you did some things, she did some things, you said some things, she said some things, and for whatever reason one or both of y'all decided that the relationship wasn't going to work out. If you continue to live your life with the mindset that things are "happening to you" that are beyond your control, you're liable to turn into a miserable wretch and live a completely reactionary life (which will lead you into disasterous things like "rebound" relationships, addictions, etc). There are precious few things in life that affect you that are absolutely and totally beyond your control. Unless this was really one of those things, own up for your faults and to this situation, change something, and move on.
Nate, while you're pretty much on the ball, let me add something. God actually did take her away from him.
"For we know all things work together for the good of those who love God and to those who are called according to His purpose." -Romans 8:28
Obviously, God didn't want that relationship to exist at that point. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with, and it's amazing how God can speak to you after it. I've grown so much spiritually in the last few months, yet I still miss that girl. If God weren't showing me so much and using me in so many ways, I'd never be able to make it. Moving on is a gradual proccess.
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Everytime I sing "Blessed Be Your Name" it takes on a deeper meaning.
Let me quote:
He gives and takes away (because everything is really His, nothing that's ours so He can do as He pleases)
My heart will choose to say, blessed be Your name.
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Man, that song has been running through my head ever since the breakup. It really does mean more after something like that.
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Jaycarrfan, i was gonna use the exact same verse. I've been going out with a girl that i love for almost a year now, and i can't imagine what it would feel like to lose her. Just keep praying and keep in mind that everything that happens in life truly is for the good of those that love God. I'll be praying for you.
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time is not WORKING for ME~!!!! i'm dying here....... please...somebody help me...
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I don't think you quite understood what I meant when I said time. It hasn't even been a week. I was thinking more like a month or two.
But again, it's not JUST time. You also have to take an active role in getting your mind on other things and not dwelling on what you've lost. Even taking an active role, though, it's going to take more than a week.
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Originally Posted by anonymoussir time is not WORKING for ME~!!!! i'm dying here....... please...somebody help me... Like Bob said, it takes a LOT of time to get over something like that. I seriously liked a girl for two and a half years, and when I finally tried to start a relationship with her, I was rejected. Man, did that hurt. It was exactly like you said, it felt (physically and emotionally) like my heart was empty. However, if you continue to rely on God for strength and healing, eventually the pain will subside. I know that's such a "Christian" thing to say, but it's true.
Also, like Bob said, try to get your mind on other things. Being as you're on a guitar forum, I'm assuming you play guitar? Play your guitar as much as you can. Write music if you can. Do something to get your mind on something other then just thinking about her.
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JaytheK brings up a good point. You're on a guitar forum. Play guitar! Do what i do and play the blues. The blues is around for just this kind of situation.
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i don't knooow hoow to plaay the bluuues.
but when i'm out doing things, i forget about her....it's when i'm home by myself i'm not happy...and i'm sorta forced to be here right now because i have to write a paperrr...(which makes me sad even more...)... I've also recently been tempted a lot....and i've fallen into those temptations which, in turn, makes me MORE sad...but the temptations are so strong right now... i pray...i do QT's...maybe i should just do more...