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I was talking to my friend today about my career aspirations in business. He told me that he didn't see me succeeding in that field because I'm "not a good people person" and that i "come off as a little awkward sometimes." there's no use in denying it anymore, he has a point. every night, i pledge to go out the next day and be more active, say hi to people, be comfortable around people, but it usually fails. just having normal conversations with people (especially girls) is extremely difficult for me. i can sense the awkwardness, too, that he's talking about. anyone have any advice for me?
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Yes, don't think about it so much. Put yourself in social situations so you can get more comfortable with them, but don't worry about it. Worrying will just make it harder.
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Hey I know exactly what you mean....some times I feel like a complete idiot around people that are "smooth" and "cool". I guess some people are better then others at looking you in the eye and saying the right things....I never was
But don't sweat it I have a job as a sports announcer when I'm not racing and I don't worry about saying anything stupid I just do my best and if i do mess up I laugh it off and don't worry about it....More people like a guy who messes up but is humble rather then somebody who is healthy wealthy and wise struts around like a celebrity.
Most of all God only expects you to do your best....and he is the only one you need to worry about impressing.....stick with him and he will take care of you
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You just need to do more socializing, take your mind off it, try not to put stress on yourself if you don't perform as well as you want. Being an extrovert is hard for us introverts
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Business uh? Bill Gates is not exactly cool ya know. You don’t have to be a social giant to succeed in business. As a matter of fact the lees friends you have in business the easier it is to do business. It is extremely hard to have friends under you in a management type situation. You need people you respect who are good at what they do, and you have to lead them, not party with them or even really like them. Sometimes it maybe better if you’re a dork than a cool guy.
I know this isn’t Biblical advice, but it is what I found during my time as a manager and small business owner. If that’s what you want go for it just remember life is about so much more than money….
Peace
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I'm in a business program and as part of my required courses, there is on on interpersonal skills, which is what you are talking about and one on organizational behaviour, which is more what smitty is talking about.
Breathe. Social skills can be learned.
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You like an introvert. When did that become a problem? It doesn't mean you won't be good in the business world. It just means that that is one thing you will have to learn that others may get naturally. You learn things like that in the course of learning your business, and you pick it up as you go.
It will never be what you are, if you really are an introvert. It will be a skill that you can flip on like a switch.
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There are books you can read about this, and mayde some archived Dear Abby advice. If you are determined to succeed, there is always a way. But probably just saying, "and today I'm going to do better", isn't going to work unless you know what areas you need to apply yourself in, or just WHAT TO DO.
One bit of advice is to observe people who you think are 'smooth' as opposed to awkward. Don't get so cool acting that you don't care about people, and you'll do fine. Ask for God's help, and look around, don't just be determined to do it on your own.