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hey,
this may sound really childish, but it is what i'm going through right now, and need some advise!!
Ok, last year my parents divorsed, and within a few months my mom moved into a new house with her boyfriend. Everything was ok at first, then my mom's boyfriend kid moved out with us. He is a year older than me, before I was the oldest. the biggest thing resently was last week. He took his kid out bowhunting for antelope and his kid ended up shooting one of the state records, this was a really big deal to them, and at first i was proud too. After a few days about hearing the story of how he shot it over and over, and them showing his pic. to everyone...... i started getting jealous. After all, the day they went hunting was supposed to be the day they would start teaching me how to drive. And I got it in my head that they never are as proud of me with any of my acomplishments. I don't know, I just feel really childish for thinking that way, and don't know how to stop. my mom, her boyfriend and his kid spend alot of time with each other, and the rest of us get left at home alot. My mom worked 80 hrs. last week, she finnally gets a day off and she spends it hunting with them. Last thanksgiving they all went hunting while me any my brothers and sister were left alone. I don't know why i want my mom's approval and time so bad, after all i'm big enough to take care of myself. i don't really know what i am saying anymore, it just still hurts, and i don't know how to overcome that! Please if anythign, pray! thanks so much!!
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Have you tried sitting down and talking to your mum about how you feel?
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yeah, basicly she tells me to "snap out of it". And life isn't always fair. I know she tries to make thigs fair, but the three of them are a family now.
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well...i don't know what to say, but i will pray for you.
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I will pray for you. It is all confusing when you join families. I think that you want your mother's approval a lot (everyone wants support and care from their parents) but not that she isn't giving it to you, you notice that it is gone.
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Yeah, the first thing is to be honest with your mom, even if she is going to blow you off. Don't pretend something isn't bothering you if it is; eventually she'll get the message.
The second thing is to do what you do and let the other guy do what he does. Don't feel the need to beat this guy at his own game, and try not to think about competing with him. He's him and you're you. The important thing is to be proud of yourself for you without feling the need to compare yourself to others.
Third, the bowhunting thing will pass; give it some time, and things may go back to normal.
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thanks for the prayers and advice, it really means alot to me!