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i dated one of my best friends. we'd known each other for years, and we fell in love. we were so convinced that we were the ones for each other. i mean, he even had an engagement ring on long-term layaway. we were serious. eventually we ended up doing some things we shouldn't have done, but things could've been worse. we said we'd stop, but we never did.
so now, he just broke up with me. he said he still wants us to be close friends. he says the resaon he broke it off was because he didn't want to put me in the same situation thast he was in. well, guess what? breaking up with me did just that! and the kicker: he's already seeing someone else! not even a week after leaving me. and she's underage. and has a reputation for being...well, she's easy. and i'm already hearing rumours about them having alreadt slept together from someone who would know nothing about it anyway. when i confronted my ex, he blew up at me. he's just been acting totally different. i really think that something's wrong that he's not telling anyone. oh, and the person who started the rumour about my ex also just started a rumour about my sister having slept with one of her friends. what am i supposed to do about that?!?! what am i supposed to do about any of this??!?!!? i mean, this guy and i had plans for the future. he made promises to me. and now he's with some little tramp who happens to be only fifteen. he's eighteen.
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ya know. i really feel for you. i don't know what to say, really. my grandparents are foster parents, and they take in all kinds of kids. the one girl sounds alot like your ex. she would do things exactly like that. and that friend of yours who keeps the rumors going, just don't hang with her. she's not really your friend. she might just be jealous of you.
i'll pray for you, k?
PM me if you need anything.
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thanks for praying for me.
it's just, i'm trying to see this as a chance to stop drifting awat from god. i know what i did was wrong and i'm so ready to come back. but it still hurts, of course, and it's so hard to see one of mt closest friends running away from god.
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i know. sometimes i get carried away too, and when something drastic happens, i try to see it that way to, and it is SO hard.
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Originally Posted by loveless i dated one of my best friends. we'd known each other for years, and we fell in love. we were so convinced that we were the ones for each other. i mean, he even had an engagement ring on long-term layaway. we were serious. eventually we ended up doing some things we shouldn't have done, but things could've been worse. we said we'd stop, but we never did.
so now, he just broke up with me. he said he still wants us to be close friends. he says the resaon he broke it off was because he didn't want to put me in the same situation thast he was in. well, guess what? breaking up with me did just that! and the kicker: he's already seeing someone else! not even a week after leaving me. and she's underage. and has a reputation for being...well, she's easy. and i'm already hearing rumours about them having alreadt slept together from someone who would know nothing about it anyway. when i confronted my ex, he blew up at me. he's just been acting totally different. i really think that something's wrong that he's not telling anyone. oh, and the person who started the rumour about my ex also just started a rumour about my sister having slept with one of her friends. what am i supposed to do about that?!?! what am i supposed to do about any of this??!?!!? i mean, this guy and i had plans for the future. he made promises to me. and now he's with some little tramp who happens to be only fifteen. he's eighteen.
I hate to be extremely blunt when dealing with matters of the heart. But your attitude needs a little bit of an adjustment. Considering the actions that you and your exboyfriend committed, it really isnt your place to condemn anyone for their sexual history. Now is it? The new girl, the 15 year old, isnt at fault. Yet, you are projecting all of your anger onto her. This isnt right. Your ex-boyfriend is the one who treated your body with disrepect and then dumped you. Not this girl. In your story, you said that he dumped you because he didnt want you to be in the situation that he was/is in. An objective look at the situation looks like he has achieved his objective. Maybe he recognized that his 'walk' wasnt perfect, and that he was chained with the sin of sexual deviance...and didnt want to drag you down, BECAUSE he loved you. If he blew up at you for asking the question, it is obvious that he has at least done something with the new girl. If it only took him one week, You need to be questioning whether or not...he was having 'relations' with her before he dumped you. And I would suggest getting tested for STD's.
From personal experience, it is next to impossible to remain friends with somone that you have had sexual relations with. When you have sex with someone you share a very special part of your heart and soul...it is very hard to go from being 'so close' to being linked in an unromantic situation.
-You cannot do anything about the guy that is spreading rumours. That is how people are. It sucks, but thats life.
-It appears that your ex, has broken his promises and plans of the future. Do the right thing....go get tested, continue your walk with God, and forget this guy.