Question:
Hi,everyone. Me new member...
I actually forgot at which age I knew her during sunday schools. She later went to my church's youth ministry at, I think, 6 years old. When I was 13, she studies in the school where I'm in. The first time I saw her, I knew it was a crush, because she's (I say)so beautiful. Until last year when i'm 14, I asked her who she likes. (Come to think of it, kind of like an immature guy asking whether a gal likes him or not)
She didn't want to tell me. We MSN, and so I told her about my feelings for her one day, using instant messaging. Then on the next day that she only told me that she likes me too. I was not wanting to be in a relationship, so we stop right before that. (Get what I mean?) I started to use my mom's cellphone to SMS her everyday(not immediately) and we talk to each other through the phone. So, I would say we're friends who love each other.
Then there was this kinda bad news... My dad changed his job to somewhere in the north of my country(Malaysia), so after my national examination this year, my family will be shifting over there next year, which means I may or may not meet her again. I was sad about this. It's weird that I can't even "survive" not sms-ing her even 1 day. I miss her every hour. I really want to see her everyday, and I need to. If I "mis-contact" with her(SMS) or don't talk with her on the phone for a week or dont see her even a day, I'll be unhappy the whole day.
My parents, I knew, as always, doesn't want me to find any girlfriend, so i don't want us to be in a relationship. Her mom is a teacher in my school, so if something's matter with her, her mom will know. Now we only SMS everyday and seldom go instant messaging because this year we, 15 year old teens have a major examination, that's on October for a week.
I planned to date with her after that, firstly because we don't have a chance to talk openly to each other(or we're to shy to just talk in front of everyone?) and I may not even have a chance to in my life. And I really, really, really, really want to have a personal talk with her.
I love her, she loves me, she's also waiting for the date. I'm 15, she's only 15, 'it's still young to be in a relationship', is it? I have no idea how we're going to date, so sad....
P/S: Sorry if you can't get what's the situation/confused, I'm kinda messily talking, right? And sorry for you all to take time to read this so-long-thread...
Answer:
Originally Posted by eoes5991 Hi,everyone. Me new member...
I actually forgot at which age I knew her during sunday schools. She later went to my church's youth ministry at, I think, 6 years old. When I was 13, she studies in the school where I'm in. The first time I saw her, I knew it was a crush, because she's (I say)so beautiful. Until last year when i'm 14, I asked her who she likes. (Come to think of it, kind of like an immature guy asking whether a gal likes him or not)
She didn't want to tell me. We MSN, and so I told her about my feelings for her one day, using instant messaging. Then on the next day that she only told me that she likes me too. I was not wanting to be in a relationship, so we stop right before that. (Get what I mean?) I started to use my mom's cellphone to SMS her everyday(not immediately) and we talk to each other through the phone. So, I would say we're friends who love each other.
Then there was this kinda bad news... My dad changed his job to somewhere in the north of my country(Malaysia), so after my national examination this year, my family will be shifting over there next year, which means I may or may not meet her again. I was sad about this. It's weird that I can't even "survive" not sms-ing her even 1 day. I miss her every hour. I really want to see her everyday, and I need to. If I "mis-contact" with her(SMS) or don't talk with her on the phone for a week or dont see her even a day, I'll be unhappy the whole day.
My parents, I knew, as always, doesn't want me to find any girlfriend, so i don't want us to be in a relationship. Her mom is a teacher in my school, so if something's matter with her, her mom will know. Now we only SMS everyday and seldom go instant messaging because this year we, 15 year old teens have a major examination, that's on October for a week.
I planned to date with her after that, firstly because we don't have a chance to talk openly to each other(or we're to shy to just talk in front of everyone?) and I may not even have a chance to in my life. And I really, really, really, really want to have a personal talk with her.
I love her, she loves me, she's also waiting for the date. I'm 15, she's only 15, 'it's still young to be in a relationship', is it? I have no idea how we're going to date, so sad....
P/S: Sorry if you can't get what's the situation/confused, I'm kinda messily talking, right? And sorry for you all to take time to read this so-long-thread...
I dont think putting an age limit, on when you are 'ready' and 'not ready' to date is a good thing. It is more the level of maturity of both people in involved in a relationship that determines if they are ready to date or not. I personly believe that if you both love each other, and you both respect each other enough not to push the other person not to do anything direspectful then you are ready for a relationship.
It boils down to this. If you are not dating because you have already labeled dating as a thing to do when you hit 16 or 17....then re-evalutate why you made that decision. If you are not dating because you just dont feel ready...THEN DONT DATE.
(*on a side note) I have recently found out that two really beautiful girls I used to be friends with in high school wanted to date me. I am married now...so it doesnt matter. But back in High School, I really liked both of these girls at one time or another. Knowing that you could have dated someone you liked...but didnt, isnt a very nice feeling.
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Originally Posted by SeekerOLight I dont think putting an age limit, on when you are 'ready' and 'not ready' to date is a good thing. It is more the level of maturity of both people in involved in a relationship that determines if they are ready to date or not. I personly believe that if you both love each other, and you both respect each other enough not to push the other person not to do anything direspectful then you are ready for a relationship.
It boils down to this. If you are not dating because you have already labeled dating as a thing to do when you hit 16 or 17....then re-evalutate why you made that decision. If you are not dating because you just dont feel ready...THEN DONT DATE.
(*on a side note) I have recently found out that two really beautiful girls I used to be friends with in high school wanted to date me. I am married now...so it doesnt matter. But back in High School, I really liked both of these girls at one time or another. Knowing that you could have dated someone you liked...but didnt, isnt a very nice feeling.
But ultimately...does not dating those girls matter now? I'd say since God gave you a wife... probably not as much in the long run.
And to answer your question. I agree with seekolight...you can't really put an age on dating. for instance, I asked my youth pastor for advice on a relationship that i wanted to get into, and he said that normally he would tell someone my age (17) to wait because they are normally immature...but he thought that I had a good enough head on my shoulders to handle it. It mainly comes down to maturity, and of course...this is the kicker, Gods will. I wish I could give you a solid answer on this. But this type of situation comes down to completely what you choose. I recently was put in almost the same circumstance... i made my choice to ask her (after much prayer, and talking with respected adults), and for various reasons, she asked me to be patient with her and wait while she got some things straightened out. I hope things turn out for ya. Good luck!