Question:
My mom keeps telling me that there's this guy at work who would be perfect for me. Apparently they talk about me alot (he just turned 19 this year) and he thinks, from what my mother told him, I'm the "perfect" girl, or his type of girl. He's seen me, I've seen him, and the guy is not ugly, he's adorable, but we've never held a conversation. he thinks I'm cute (argh) and have alot of "potential" (wtheck does that mean anyways?) and he's interested.
What if I end up dating this guy? Oh God, what if it works out? I'm more afraid it'll work out than if it doesn't. Oh man....this terrifies me. What if he wants to court me? Those that know me know why I'm scared (or have some idea)
What if I start to love him, but he doesn't love me? or vise-versa? Or....oh man, I need some advice and prayer!
And plus, he's a Mormon. My mother tells him if he wants to date me, he has to convert to Baptist. (she didn't say christianity)
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Warning bells.
Essentially, your mom is trying to set you up with someone. Not necessarily a bad thing, but from the looks of it she's trying to set you up with someone before you're ready and with someone that you unsure about. That's sketchy. Furthermore, as much as they will try to tell you differently, Mormons are not Christians. Some of my best friends in high school were Mormons and we had many debates and discussions about this; suffice it to say, their beliefs are heretical. It's not just a question of "converting" to your denomination, but a question of converting to Christianity.
In regards to your main concerns, nothing will happen if you don't let it. Ultimately, it's your choice whether you date him or not and it is just as much up to you as it is up to him (or your mother for that matter) as to whether it works out or not. If you're scared, then don't date him! It really is as simple as that. Only go through with any of this if you want to. Do not be forced into anything. And, considering the situation, I would suggest talking to your mother and figuring out why she wants to set you up with a non-Christian.
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I've already told her I'm not dating anyone, or even doing anything date related until I'm old enough to marry. My mom knows this--oh no, everything would take place after I turn 18.
And I'm full aware I don't have to date the guy. He doesn't terrify me because I find him scary, like he might hurt me. I find him terrifying because he finds me attractive, suitable and respectable. I'm terrified of intimate relationships becasue that's when I'm most vulnerable. If we have a talk (without either of us blushing, lol) and I find him nice, and there's a click or something, then we'll get togerher every once in a while, but won't start dating seriously until I'm 18. If I meet someone else--I'm worried about that too. To tell you the truth I'm seriosuly considering becoming a nun, that way i wn't have to deal with all this crud. but that's running away, and I couldn't live with myself, so I'll have to just.......well pray, and be as brave as I can. This might nto work out. He may meet someone else. I may meet someone else.
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Originally Posted by John 4:18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. If you are in love with someone, you will not be afraid of being in an intimite relationship with that person.
It is normal to be nervous when it comes to stuff like this, but fear is a problem. You have to trust God, and His perfect love will cast out the fear that you feel.
That's the best way I know how to say that.
Also, if the guy is a Mormon, God says not to marry him. If you are not going to marry him, then there is no need to be worried about getting to know him, seeing if you guys click, etc..
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Thanks. That helps. I'm still afraid, but that's my problem. I'm gonna have to ask God to get rid of that, because when I get scared or nervous, I start twitching, and I have a softball game today. lol.
I so need to stop laughing at myself so much, lol.
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Mormonism teaches that the protestant church is apostate and unsaved, among other things. Like the idea that God was once a man and is now transcended (not universally believed), that The Pearl of Great Price, Handbook of the Covenant and the Book of Mormon hold a higher precedent over the bible (being more recent, they must also be more holy, or the holy is more fresh; like a court ruling that overturns an old one).
In short; red light, Kayla. When your mother says he would have to convert to the Baptist denomination, she is probably just making the assumption that Mormonism is another denomination- however, by definition, it is literally a cult. I would reccomend you and your mother both do some research into mormonism. If my guess is right, she is not aware that if this guy is a true mormon, he believes that both you and your mom are going to hell- not because you're bad, but because you aren't privy to as much truth as he is. Or has nobody here picked up on the fact that the name of their church is "Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints"?
Here is some good info. And here is some info from the Mormon side of things.
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Yikes, yikes, yikes. Stop worrying about the final lap before the race even starts (sorry for the lame analogy; it was the best I could come up with). You don't even know the guy. Slow down. Tell your mother (extremely respectfully) that you don't appreciate her trying to set you up with guys because it puts too much pressure on you. Tell her that you'd like to get to know a guy before thinking about dating him. Then, stop thinking about dating this guy. Become his friend. That's the first step in any good relationship anyway.
Also, it's completely your choice whether you date him or not. There's no need to be afraid that it'll work out. If you don't want to date him, don't. Don't date unless you feel comfortable doing so, and PLEASE don't date him until you get to know him.
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Skeeter = 100% correct
H.M. Murdock = 100% correct
Mormonisim is a dangerous cult that you do NOT want to be involved with, and you do not even want to entertain the thought of dating this fellow (however nice he may be) unless he converts to christianity of his own free will, and not because someone makes him.
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I agree that you should not date a Mormon.
I also agree that you should not date him until you've gotten to know him. Honestly, the fact that he thinks you are the "perfect" girl without ever having a conversation with you is really freaky.
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to be honest you might be making a mountain outa a molehill. i mean, just tell your mom that you would appreciate it if she didnt make those remarks that scare you. have you expressed your feelings to your mom or dad?
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I told my mom she was scaring me. she said she didn't think I would take it this seriously. So she's gonna stop. Thank God, I made myself sick from all this worrying.
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Hehe, well I'm glad to hear you've got it worked out better.