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ok, my name is kate and i used to be a cutter, i would hurt myself to get my feelings out and i even tried to kill myself a couple time, since then God has opened my eyes and helped me to stop, with the help of my friends and family, i am coming up on my 6th month aniversery and i am really excited, but my question is there are these 2 girls at my school who cut and they dont even hid it, everytime i see them i am reminded of what i did and i start feeling depressed, should i talk to them and tell them to stop like my friedns did to me, or just let them continue to do what they r doing? i have been praying for them but they dont seem to stop, i am kinda scared to open myself up to them because when i moved from italy i tried to just forget about it, i dont want anybody in my new home to know, oh yeah and one more thing, these girls arnt really my friends, just like chicks i see around, so what do u think i should do?
Kate
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Originally Posted by punkrockergirl ok, my name is kate and i used to be a cutter, i would hurt myself to get my feelings out and i even tried to kill myself a couple time, since then God has opened my eyes and helped me to stop, with the help of my friends and family, i am coming up on my 6th month aniversery and i am really excited, but my question is there are these 2 girls at my school who cut and they dont even hid it, everytime i see them i am reminded of what i did and i start feeling depressed, should i talk to them and tell them to stop like my friedns did to me, or just let them continue to do what they r doing? i have been praying for them but they dont seem to stop, i am kinda scared to open myself up to them because when i moved from italy i tried to just forget about it, i dont want anybody in my new home to know, oh yeah and one more thing, these girls arnt really my friends, just like chicks i see around, so what do u think i should do?
Kate Yes, I would be worried about getting yourself involved in it again. Even if to help others. I don't know what I would do if I was in that situation. Do you know any of their friends? You could as them to talk with the girls and encourage them to cease their dangerous behavior. I pray that you make the right choice. Congratulations on quiting! you have an amazing testimony to share with people now.
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well, this is and most likely always will be a touchy subject. However, in talking to them and trying to help them you do have a bit of an advantage over others, in that, you've been where they are. As unfortunate as the situation may be, it helps. They can't just brush you off and say "you don't know what I've been through" or anything like that. If it were me, I'd try and get to know them. Make it known to them that you care about them (they aren't just some "charity outreach" or anything like that). Definitely keep up in the prayer and everything (It may be that the help you've been asking God for them is yourself).
It'll always be a painful memory, and helping these girls may help you move a little past that and, maybe, even help give you a great testimony.
I'll definitely be praying for you and these girls as well.
EDIT: I would, also, suggest not trying to help them on your own as well. You definitely need support from others when working with a situation like this.
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I have a friend who went through the same thing. I really don't know what you should do, but my thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Another thing is how harsh you will be. Sometimes, coming fresh out of something, the struggles of your desires will be transferred into a crusading attitude. Coming out of Alchohol problems I was death on Alchohol, far more than I should biblically have been, and my own struggle became manifested as a very judgemental attitude.
Are these girls Christians? If not, not cutting will do no good. They are spiritually dead, and if a corpse stinks, perfume and deodorizers solve no problems.